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Waiting on Another Religious Liberty Case at the Supreme Court

In Abortion, Constitution, Courts, Democracy, Diane Robertson, Free Speech, Government, Health Care, Human Rights, Religion, Religious Freedom, Sanctity of Life, Supreme Court, Values, Women's Rights on June 25, 2014 at 8:03 am

freedom of religion in USADiane Robertson

We live in an age of entitlement. People believe they are owed things by the government or others. Unfortunately, we live in an age where the government typically agrees with this attitude of entitlement. Regardless of the desires and convictions of anyone else, many people feel what they want is most important and with or without force, those services and goods must be provided to them. These people and the current government want to force everyone else to provide services even if those services violate the deeply held religious convictions of the ones providing. Many of these cases have involved gay rights verses religious rights. The current case awaiting a ruling at the Supreme Court involves abortifacient drugs.

In March, the Supreme Court heard arguments in two cases: Sebelius v. Hobby Lobby Stores and Conestoga Wood Specialties Corp v. Sebelius. These cases focus on the HHS mandate portion of the Obamacare law. The HHS mandate requires all employers to supply insurance that covers all contraceptives approved by the FDA as well as sterilizations without a co-pay. Some religions such as the Catholic Church discourages sterilization and contraceptive use. Some FDA approved contraceptives, such as Plan B , are known as abortifacient drugs. One way Plan B works is to prevent an already fertilized egg from implanting by irritating the lining of the uterus. By not allowing a fertilized egg to implant, Plan B causes an early abortion.

The Green family who owns Hobby Lobby and the Hahn family who owns Conestoga Wood contend that being the source of abortifacient drugs for their employees violates their religious beliefs.

To appease religious employers and avoid lawsuits, the Obama administration offered nonprofits an “accommodation,” requiring the insurer to pay for the questionable drugs. Of course, that is simply an accounting gimmick. Employers still remain the legal gateway for their employees to obtain these drugs and Obamacare is still the gateway by which these employees are forced to supply them.

Emily Minick, a senior legislative assistant at the Family Research Council further explains the problems the HHS mandate causes for religious employers and all Americans:

“The HHS mandate is also a slippery slope. The text of Obamacare never mentioned that individuals or family businesses would be forced to provide all government-approved contraceptives and drugs. Rather, Obamacare only required that all health care plans cover ‘preventative care services for women,’ which the Department of Health and Human Services interprets to include the above-mentioned drugs and services. What is to stop a future administration from posting a new blog and interpreting ‘preventive care services for women’ to require all health care plans to cover surgical abortions without a co-pay?”

By not offering strong religious exemptions, the HHS mandate is essentially another attack on religious freedom in America. The first amendment began a Constitutional mandate resulting in a tradition of religious exemptions. These exemptions have always been offered and honored. Through the history of the United States, these exemptions have protected many religious people no matter their religion or sect. Quakers have not had to fight in wars. Muslims have not had to transport alcohol. During prohibition, Catholics and Jews were allowed to use wine for their religious rituals. In more recent times, doctors and nurses have not had to participate in assisted suicides, abortions, and prisoner executions.  Pharmacists have not had to distribute abortifacient drugs.

These exemptions have served America well. They have made it possible for many people of different faiths and beliefs to live peaceably under the laws together in one nation. The attitude of entitlement and entitlement laws such as the HHS mandate threatens this. In just a few more days, the Supreme Court will have a decision on these very important cases. Please pray for the justices to continue with the Constitutional mandate of religious freedom for all.

 

 

 

 

 

CSW and Sexual Rights

In Abortion, Abstinence, AIDS, Child Development, Diane Robertson, Education, Families, Feminism, Government, Meet UFI, motherhood, Parental Rights, Parenting, Pedophilia, Sex Education, The Family, UN, Values, Women's Rights on March 26, 2014 at 8:37 pm

UN 2Diane Robertson

The Commission on the Status of Women (CWS) is a functional commission of the United Nations Economic and Social Council (ECOSOC). Each year delegates from 45 countries meet at the U.N. headquarters in NY to formulate concrete policies on women worldwide.

Volunteers from United Families International just spent the past week in NYC presenting and assisting delegates in formulating the wording in certain “outcome documents”. The language found in these outcome documents gets used everywhere and becomes known as ‘customary international law’. The phrases in the outcome documents have tremendous influence worldwide. United Families is there to help assure that the critical wording in these documents is family friendly. This is clearly a tough job. While the stated purpose of the conference, based on 8millenial goals (MDG’s), are eradicating extreme poverty and hunger, achieve a universal primary education, promote gender equality and empower women, reduce child mortality rates, improve maternal health, combat disease like HIV/AIDS and malaria, ensure environmental sustainability, and develop global partnerships, there are many NGO’s that use these goals to push comprehensive sexual education and sexual rights for children.

Carolina-Kawika Allen attended CSW with other UFI volunteers. She states:

“Certain NGOs have more sway and power at the UN. Many are using this power to create temporary fixes with long term devastation and oppression. Let me explain… While here at this conference it is clear to see how the solutions posed by very influential NGOs, promoting terms like, ‘reproductive health care for women and girls’, ‘child sexual rights’, ‘comprehensive sexual education’, etc. are in reality something else entirely.

Take for example the Goliath-NGO, International Planned Parenthood Federation (IPPF), with its most recent campaign ‘Exclaim’ for ‘child sexual rights’. Here you find that, and I quote, ‘Young people must be able to explore, experience and express their sexuality. They are entitled to do this in positive, pleasurable and safe ways. To secure young people’s sexual rights we must understand how human rights apply to young people’s sexuality’. Note that they are linking human rights directly with sexual rights, a legal move that is intended to codify sexuality in children, with the intent to eventually become legally binding. This campaign never even specifies how young, and in several places the word ‘child’ is actually used.”

 As side event on human sex trafficking of children occurred, language that would have children as young as 5 taught masturbation, children as young as 13 introduced to pornography in the name of “sexual health”, and abortion services provided for every young woman by the age of 15 was being debated. Carolina exclaimed, “I sat in my chair fuming at the idea that the very language being included in these outcome documents were essentially ‘grooming’ children as a sexual predator would groom his victim.”

The term “Family” has become the most controversial word at the U.N.  Countries that still believe that strong families are the solution to the MDG goals such as eradicating poverty, and hunger, educating children and stopping the spread of diseases are few and weak. They are mainly African, Polynesian, and Middle Eastern nations. The delegates from these countries are under extreme pressure to give way to the sexual rights agenda of the powerful NGO’s. They need the help of the few family friendly groups such as United Families International to stand strong in favor of the family.

Carolina concludes by calling upon the good strong women of the world to help fight the sexual right’s agenda in order to secure the safety of the child/parent relationship and the safety of children around the world. She declares:

“What I have found is the TREMENDOUS need for women, faithful, family centered, child-protecting, women–women like you and me who aren’t ashamed to claim and fight for their families–women who proudly claim their faith—strong and mighty women, who will fight for their children and the world’s children.”

2014 the Dirty Dozen List

In Constitution, date rape, Democracy, Domestic Violence, Education, Government, Media, Pedophilia, Pornography, Prostitution, Values, Violence, Women's Rights on March 6, 2014 at 11:28 am

Porn-Harms-Effects-on-ChildrenRachel Allison

A good friend of mine is fighting Agenda 21.

Another friend is educating neighbors and friends on our Constitution and its guaranteed freedoms.

My neighbor down the street shelters dogs in need of a good home.

I learned years ago, that there aren’t enough hours in the day or days in the week that would allow me to get involved in all good causes. But yesterday I was introduced to a cause that persuades me to make time for this one. I received the following email.

We need your help! Please join us in publicly recognizing these twelve as responsible parties in the spread of pornography and exploitation. Help us call on them to change their ways.

The email came from a Dawn Hawkins, Executive Director to  Porn Harms .  Her organization’s Morality in the Media, had made a list of twelve leading contributors to sexual exploitation. They titled their list, 2014 the Dirty Dozen List.  I couldn’t believe what I read.

THE 2014 LIST

Attorney General Eric Holder – Mr. Holder refuses to enforce existing federal obscenity laws against hardcore adult pornography, despite the fact that these laws have been upheld by the U.S. Supreme Court and effectively enforced by previous attorneys general.

Verizon – Verizon pushes porn into our homes now through hardcore pay-per-view movies on FIOS, smart phones, and tablets and as an Internet Service Provider with insufficient filtering options.

Sex Week – Yale and other colleges and universities repeatedly offer Sex Week on campus. Porn stars are routinely invited to lecture and pornography that glamourizes “fantasy rape” is screened.

Google – Google’s empire thrives on porn. Porn is easily available, even to children, through YouTube, GooglePlay, Google Images and Google Ads.

Tumblr – This popular social media blogging site bombards users with porn. Users must only be 13 and the filters do not work.

50 Shades of Gray – This bestselling book series and upcoming movie are normalizing sexual violence, domination, and torture of women. Oprah Winfrey Network, Broadway and other mainstream outlets have even promoted this abusive lifestyle.

Facebook – Facebook has become a top place to trade pornography, child pornography and for sexual exploitation. Facebook’s guidelines prohibit such behavior, but the company is doing little to enforce them.

Barnes & Noble – This Fortune 500 Company is a major supplier of adult pornography and child erotica.  They regularly put pornography near the children’s sections in their stores and provide free, unfiltered porn publications on their Nook e-reader.

Hilton – This hotel chain, like Hyatt, Starwood and many other top hotel chains, provides hardcore pornography movie choices. Porn channels are often the first advertisement on their in-room TVs.

Playstation – PlayStation’s live-streaming abilities are filling thousands of homes with live porn and the PlayStation Store sells hundreds of pornographic and sexually violent games.

American Library Association – The ALA encourages public libraries to keep their computers unfiltered and allow patrons, including children, to access pornography.

Cosmopolitan Magazine – The magazine is a full-on pornographic, “how-to” sex guide, encouraging women to accept the pornified culture around them. They specifically market this content to teen girls.

The action that we choose to take whether it be in the form of letters, petitions, boycotts or donations will make a difference…this is a cause worth fighting. Spread the word!

www.PornHarms.com

 

 

Date Rape and Sexual Assault

In date rape, Drug Use, Human Rights, Parental Rights, Parenting, Sanctity of Life, Sex Education, The Family, Values, Violence, Women's Rights on November 27, 2013 at 2:12 pm

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by Kristi Kane

During my last year of college, a young man in one of my creative writing classes wrote a story about a young woman who had been raped. I still remember the opening line of his story written in first person, in which the victim says of the rape, “I don’t know if I liked it or not…” His story made him the target of open hostility among the female students. Two of the young women began crying. I was one of them.

Years earlier, when I was barely 16, my best friend and I double dated one evening with our boyfriends. My best friend’s boyfriend drove a small car, an old VW bug, and during the drive, my boyfriend slid over to my side of the car and started kissing me. I didn’t mind that, but suddenly he became forceful and pinned my hands behind my back with one hand, and with the other, groped my private region. I was literally screaming for him to stop, but he kept at it until his friend (the one driving), realized I was serious and told him to stop. Even then he kept touching me for a few seconds, then scooted back to his side of the car and started laughing. I can assure you that I did NOT like it!

I asked my friend’s date to drive me home. All I remember is going home and getting ready for bed. Once in bed, I lay there feeling violated and guilty. Did I do something to make him do that to me? What should I do? Should I tell my parents? I didn’t sleep that night. I had a sick feeling in my gut that didn’t leave for some time. I didn’t tell my parents what had happened for almost five years. By then my family had moved to another state. I was afraid to tell my parents before because I was afraid of what my Dad would do to this boy. I didn’t want anyone to know. I didn’t want trouble with this boy or his friends. I was so humiliated, and felt so guilty. I just wanted the whole situation to go away.

Now that I am an adult, I wish I had come right home and told my parents. Even though I felt like throwing up, and even though I was worried about the consequences, I should have told them. Ironically, I was worried about what my telling would do to that boy’s future. While I was not technically “raped,” (rape is described as “physically forcing a woman (or man) to have sexual intercourse), I was sexual assaulted.  Sexual assault is described as “any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient.”

The Role of Drugs and Alcohol in Date Rape

In the mid-1990’s, the date rape drug was brought to the forefront of the press. Several big magazines wrote stories about it, several talk shows spotlighted it. Alcohol is the most common drug used for DFSA (drug facilitated sexual assault). Often women will willingly drink alcohol in a business or social setting. If they drink to the point of intoxication or drink a beverage that has secretly or openly been tainted with a date rape drug, they are only aware of a potential rape if one or all of the following have happened: they regain consciousness and discover that they are in a different location, they have disarranged clothing, there is the  presence of semen, vaginal or anal soreness, they awake feeling woozy or confused with little or no memory of what happened.

Date rape drugs are easy to be found. They include prescription sleep aids (Ambien being the most prevalent), and tranquilizers (Valium, Librium, Xanax or Activan). The most common, however, is alcohol.  In 90% of date rapes, alcohol is involved . Practically any drug (either secretly or openly administered), could be considered a date-rape drug if it is used to facilitate rape.

If you have been raped, or suspect you may have been raped, it is important for you to go to a medical facility immediately. The medical facility will treat you, complete a forensic analysis (collecting hairs, fluids and fibers for evidence), and contact the police if you wish to file a report. If you have been raped or sexually assaulted, report it to the police. Seek counseling. Rape is a crime. Sexual assault is a crime. The predators who commit these acts are criminals and deserve to be penalized for what they have done. To not report it, may expose another victim to their violent behavior.

Parents’ Role in Keeping Children Safe

To parents,  I cannot state emphatically enough how important it is for you to be aware of your children’s whereabouts and for you to meet your children’s dates. I’ve had times when my “creepy crawly” radar has gone off, and I have not let my girls leave with a date. My husband has literally chased off a couple of boys too. Look at your children’s faces when they come home from a date. Often their countenance and/or body language will tell you if there is a problem. (It may seem extreme, but my husband and I literally have GPS trackers on our children’s phones so we know where they are.) Use common sense. Partying may expose you to assault and/or rape. Use the buddy system. Do not be alone with a member of the opposite sex, or especially with several members of the opposite sex. If you decide to drink, do not drink to the point of intoxication. Do not drink from a cup that has been handed to you. Pour your own drink and keep it in your possession. Better yet, just do not drink. That leaves you in control of your own faculties.

Some of the information, facts and statistics on date rape and sexual assault are found on the following website. Please read it. It is quite alarming.

http://www.usciences.edu/shac/counseling/daterape.shtml

And in my early college years, my Dad gave me the book, “Tough Target: The Street-Smart Guide to Staying Safe,” by JJ Bittenbinder and William Neal. He made me read it, and I’ve never been sorry I did. The point of this article is not to scare you, just to make you aware.

For those of you who need help, please call the Rape Crisis Hotline at 800-656-HOPE.

“Lioness at the Gate”

In Child Development, Education, Families, Feminism, Grandparents, Marriage, motherhood, Parenting, stay-at-home mom, The Family, UN, Values, Women's Rights, working mothers on April 2, 2013 at 11:04 am

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Rachel Allison

As major conferences are held at the United Nations, men and women from all over the world come to New York City to support a particular cause or share their grievances with those who will listen.  Many plan what are called “side events” and these side events are calendared and publicized with the hopes that conference participants will attend.

In 2007 I was attending The Conference, Commission on the Status of Women, and I attended one such side event that was taking place.

Five beautiful women, all from Sweden, had traveled to New York City to ask that their roles as “mother” and their desire to be a “stay-at-home mother” be acknowledged as a meaningful, respectable and even crucial role in society.

Their grievance was that unless Swedish women are working outside the home they are looked down upon as non-contributors of society…even parasites of those willing to work for the betterment of Sweden and its economy.

One woman shared with us the statistics of Sweden’s growth and envied economy.  But she said that the statistics that are not so commonly shared are the statistics of child suicide and the rampant depression in the women who are told that they can and should “do it all.”  …Be a contributing member of society and a woman who can keep a household and family running in organized and top order.   She said that government call centers have been provided for children who are home and feeling depressed.  But these call centers are not statistically diminishing the suicide rate.

As these five young women spoke out about their frustrations and their desire to be considered contributing members of society as they stay home to care for their children, my heart ached for them and the children of such a culture.

In more recent years I spoke with a Swedish woman who did not have the same impression of her country.  She felt that her government did encourage women to stay at home at least during the first years of their children’s lives.  She was an older woman, more a grandmother’s age.  And I wondered where the truth actually lies.

I recently read an article by Julie B. Beck where she referred to a mother’s role as being compared with a “Lioness at the gate of the home….she guards that gate, and things matter to that family if they matter to her.”  I have thought about that analogy numberless times, and as I have reflected upon the years when my five active children were in the home, I can see that her comparison is extremely insightful.  My thoughts have turned to the numerous times with each of my children when if I had not been available or vigilant or willing to “snarl and claw” my children could have been “carried away” by the influences that exist to destroy their productive lives.  Anyone having had teenage children will know exactly what I’m talking about…. teenagers living in our society need I lioness standing guard, not a pussy cat, or worse yet a distracted pussy cat.

Those who attended the UN side event were as frustrated with the situation as the five women living it in their home country. The debate and conversation was spirited and supportive of their plight.

At one point I spoke saying, “We can have it all…and we can do it all.  After all, we are women.  However, there is a time and a season to all things.  There is a season for us to get our education and develop talents and skills.  And there is a season to have children and love and support and teach and guide them until they can travel through life on their own.  And there is a time and season for a career and self-indulgence.  But these seasons of our lives do not run concurrently.  Most of the time they come in consequential order and spacing.  That is the only way we can have it all and take care of that which is most important for the season of our lives we are in.  It’s when we try to do things out of season that our efforts are frustrated and we experience failure.”  Neither my thoughts nor words were  original. I do not take credit for them.   They are found in Ecclesiastes Chapter 3.  And the entire room erupted in applause and a standing ovation.  The truth rings true to those that “hear.”

 

 

Countries Manipulated by the Media

In Abortion, UFI, UN, Women's Rights on March 21, 2013 at 4:47 pm

CSW 2013Carol Soelberg

Late on Friday, the UN negotiating room erupted in cheers as anti-family activists welcomed the adoption of the “Agreed Conclusions” for the Commission on Status of Women (CSW) 57th session.  Two weeks of intense negotiations had produced a document that was less than favorable to the cause of family and of life.  United Families representatives, along with other members of the pro-family/pro-life coalition, had gone late into the night monitoring negotiations, providing options for language, and working to shore up the family-friendly delegations.  In the end, however, it became clear that one of our biggest opponents had been the media.

Before CSW even began, media was circulating the meme that the delegations of Russia, Iran, the Holy See, Pakistan, were going to work to stymie negotiations.  The articles (examples here and here) implied that nations that are conservative in worldview and adhere to religion and traditional cultural values were complicit in promoting violence against women.  (Eliminating Violence against Women and Girls” was the theme of the two-week gathering.)  The news articles made it clear that if the outcome document failed (as it did last year) that it would be the fault of these nations and their delegations.

At about 5:30 pm on the final day, the negotiation’s facilitator announced that a “Chairman’s text” was now going to be used as the final version.  There was no word as to who had actually been involved in compiling the text. It was a stunning turn of events because the Chairman’s text retained much of the language that pro-family countries had opposed for weeks and yet the compilers of the text had simply dropped many of the pro-life/pro-family phrases and paragraphs.  In the end, few delegations spoke out against the Chairman’s text or registered reservations and it was adopted.

The anti-family contingents at CSW were not going to let this document fail and it appeared that the media campaign against the pro-family position had done its job.  The voices of our usually out-spoken and assertive pro-family delegations had been tempered.  Long-time UN watchers observed that if the text had gone to an actual counted vote, pro-family delegations did not have sufficient enough numbers to defeat the Chairman’s text so why should they risk the wrath of the media and the liberal delegations, when opposing the draft in the final moments would not have affected the outcome anyway.  “It was a done deal from the beginning,” one observer noted.

Specific Outcomes of CSW 57 “Agreed Conclusions”

Some of the troubling language:

  • Multiple references to “sexual and reproductive” health care/services/rights (used to promote abortion).
  •   “gender-related crimes” in the context of the International Criminal Court; “gender-based violence” causing “…psychological harm or suffering…”  (“Gender” is often used in the context of acknowledging and promoting homosexual behaviors.)
  • Deletion of the paragraph supporting a nation’s sovereign rights, “…with full respect for the various religious and ethical values and cultural backgrounds of its people, and conformity with universally recognized international human rights.”

Some successes:

  • Gone from text are references to “sexual or gender orientation” or “gender-identity”  (The opposition was saddened by its loss, noting that it referred to “women who love other women”.)  References to “intimate partner” “intimate relationships” were also removed.  (This is language intended to normalize out-of-wedlock sexual relations.)
  • An inclusion of the troubling language of “comprehensive sexuality education” but qualified with this important phrase: “…with the appropriate direction and guidance from parents and legal guardians…”
  • Inclusions of need to eliminate “prenatal sex selection,” “forced hysterectomy,” forced sterilization,” forced use of contraceptives”

A Bad Document, but a Great Education!  

Students at UNUnited Families International conducted a parallel event called:  “Eliminating Violence against Women and Girls: What does the research say?”  To a packed room, we presented a wealth of evidence that the safest place for women and children is in a stabled, married, heterosexual household.   Included in the event was a short presentation on the horrific practice of sex-selective abortion (the systematic termination of unborn females).   At the completion of the presentation, a young Hungarian woman approached one of the college students who was part of the UFI team and mentioned that prior to our presentation she “had never before considered how women, and human beings in general, have rights before they are born.”

The UFI team was pleased to recognize once again that the real win is in the heart and mind of each individual.   We came away with a long list of individuals from around the world who requested a copy of the power point so they could share the research with others.  Every individual who becomes convinced of the necessity of the family in providing a safe place for women, adds one more powerful voice in defense of the family.

The UFI team, which consisted of six college students, their two professors, and UFI’s other volunteers, were able to visit twelve UN Missions.  They delivered UFI’s Negotiating Guide and the book on the importance of Family Capital in meeting the Millennium Development Goals.  Mission visits are a wonderful way to become acquainted with the delegates, offer support and encouragement for their difficult task of standing firm against the huge wall of opposition, and to spread a pro-family/pro-life message.

Lastly, we were also supported by a group of dedicated students from Patrick Henry College.  We thank them for their work.  Please take a minute to check out some of their blog posts (below).  You’ll gain some interesting insights into the Commission on the Status of Women.

It does not surprise us that the UN commissions become increasingly resistant to family-friendly documents.  But we will not give up!  We will continue to work with the International pro-family coalition to discover ways to protect the family and stop the progress of the opposition.  We learned this time the power the media can play in the UN and we will be prepared to fight that battle in the future.  We know that those of our team who experienced the UN for the first time have seen another side of the opposition and they left more empowered to defend the family on all levels.

We wish you could all have that experience and hope that our report lights a fire in your hearts to continue the critical work of protecting and strengthening the family.

Carol2Carol Soelberg
President, United Families International

 

Remembering CSW

In Child Development, Education, Families, father, Health Care, Human Rights, Marriage, motherhood, Parental Rights, Parenting, Population Control, Sanctity of Life, Schools, The Family, UFI, UN, Values, Women's Rights on March 12, 2013 at 2:03 pm

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Rachel Allison

This week is the final week of the “Commission on the Status of Women,” a conference being held at the United Nations in New York City.  United Families International has several volunteers at the UN working to influence pro-life and pro-family language into the outcome documents that will soon become International Law.

As important as this lobbying is, those in our delegation also have opportunity to support women who have come from all over the world to speak to UN delegations concerning their difficult situations at home. Until we hear their stories many of us cannot fathom the situations these good women are experiencing.  In past years I have heard women speak about human slave and sex trafficking.  Their laws and police force do not protect them or their children from such atrocities.   I have heard women talk about watching other women stoned to death without trial or jury.  I have heard women talk about laws that do not protect their 10, 11, and 12 year-old daughters from being bought and subjected to marriage and pregnancy…pregnancy that often causes the unborn baby to die within the womb of the child bride because her body is not mature enough to give birth.

I’m not at CSW (Commission on the Status of Women) this year, but I am trying to read as much as I can about what is happening as they try to direct this year’s focus on eliminating violence against women. I just read an article by someone who is at the conference.  His words brought back vivid memories of needs and concerns that are too often sidelined.

“During the waning days of the conference’s first week and well into this most recent weekend,  I watched and listened as African women discussed and debated the all-important Outcome Document amongst themselves.  Luckily for me, English is their common language and as I sat beside them in the Business Center of our clean but quite modest hotel late into the night on Saturday AND Sunday, I heard their concerns.”

“They are worried about their daughter’s AND son’s education; they want access to potable water in the more remote regions of their respective countries; more doctors, and in keeping with          this year’s conference theme, they want real life-and-death protection for their daughters.”

As I read his article, I was taken back to the years when I attended CSW, and my heart went out to these women who are desperate for help.  I have personally seen women who have to walk miles for potable water.  I have seen the small dark tents where 15+ children huddle to be taught reading and simple arithmetic. I have seen villages whose only “doctor” is a witch doctor who uses the same needle on his patients until it is too dull to be used again.  I have seen mother’s grieve over the loss of a child to dehydration, snakebite, and disease when there was no medicine or help to save.

We who can’t imagine raising a family in such living conditions should count our blessings, and determine that we will give selflessly to strengthen our families, and then support causes that can lift and help the struggling.

Because I have seen what I have seen, and experienced what I have experienced, I cannot, without guilt, spend time on the trivial.  I’m grateful for that guilt.  There are causes too vital not to get involved.  I try to examine my priorities every day. And then I pray like the dickens that my efforts will make a difference.

Women: Career or Home and Family…

In Child Development, Families, Feminism, Marriage, Media, motherhood, Parenting, stay-at-home mom, The Family, Values, Women's Rights, working mothers on May 29, 2012 at 4:03 pm

Rachel Allison

What has our society done to us?

Has Hollywood and advertising caused us to focus on looks rather than depth, and instant gratification rather than virtue and self-control?  Have we become caught up with priorities that may bring status and recognition while true and lasting fulfillment are eluded because we have not focused on selfless service?  If only we could place our causes and priorities under a type of magnifying glass that could clearly project the future outcome of our time and efforts.  We could then examine whether our time commitments are helping us reach the top of the mountain we are really wanting to reach.

Recently I read an article entitled “The Bride Who was Groomed for a Career” by Lea Singh.  What an interesting viewpoint on feminism.  In years past I have rubbed shoulders with many women who believe that first and foremost they should prepare for a fulfilling career.  These women eventually want marriage and family too, but they have been so focused on priorities dictated by secularism and feminism that other concerns are given only a side-glance.

Several years ago my husband and I became good friends with a fortyish-age woman who had made quite a career for herself in the fashion world.  Her name and photo were regulars in some of the more exclusive New York magazines. She once told us that she lived the life of “The Devil Wears Prada.” In fact she had worked closely with the woman who inspired the above-mentioned movie.  She said that her schedule required that a sleeping bag be kept in one of her office drawers, and evening gowns were kept in her office closet.  There were many weeks where her office WAS her home, and she loved the excitement and lure of all the glitz and recognition!  That is she loved it until she realized that with this kind of pace she would never find serious prospects for marriage. As she neared her 40th birthday, she made a courageous decision.  She actually quit her job and began writing a book.  Her time became her own, and amazingly she was married within a year. The last I heard she had two small children, and she was finally living the life she really wanted all along.

I’m not at all implying that women should not attend college and get a degree. Any and all education received gives confidence and perspective.  It can inspire and empower….making any woman a better companion and mother.

I found Lea Singh’s viewpoint extremely interesting. The following is taken from Ms. Singh’s article:

I wish that as I was growing up, the role of wife and mother had been more fully present as a respectable and important option that also needs time and training, not just an afterthought that automatically tacks on to a career. Much of the skill set I acquired in university is not very useful in the home. Although I know how to write legal briefs, I wish I knew how to sew, play family songs on the piano and cook without a cookbook, and even that I was more familiar with caring for little ones and for a busy household. All the chores I was protected from in order to enable me to study as I was growing up – maybe I should have done them after all, including some babysitting. I want to give these experiences to my daughter, so that she will be better equipped not just for a career, but also for motherhood.

I even wish – and this is sure to get some hair frizzed – that it had been explained to me that a high-flying career does not go well with family life. Men and women really are different. When the man gets married, it is just a sweet step in the direction of all his life dreams. He can climb up the career ladder and still be a good father to his nine kids. He will get a deep sense of meaning and fulfillment from providing for his family.

But where feminism has confused women, it has made us dream that we are the same as men. Men are not mothers, and children don’t need them in the same way as they will inevitably need us. So if we want to have children, we can’t pretend to be men in our career plans and aspirations. Do we really want to have someone else caring for our homes and our children? It does not have to be that way. We need to embrace a model of life success that is less career-oriented and more family-centered. Giving of oneself to others, while it comes without diplomas, year-end bonuses and frequent-flyer miles, is just as worthy and important as building up one’s own career.

 

 

 

 

 

A Cause You Can Believe In

In Abortion, Child Development, Constitution, Education, Environmentalism, Families, Human Rights, Pedophilia, Prostitution, Sanctity of Life, The Family, UN, Values, Women's Rights on March 27, 2012 at 11:12 am

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Rachel Allison

There are many causes in the world:  “Save the whales;” “Save the forests;” ”Save our environment;” “Preserve Freedom.;” and, of course, “Save the Family.” It’s important for people to have a cause.  It keeps us focused during our discretionary time on bettering our neighborhoods, community, society, and world.  Because of our potential to make a marked difference we should consider our causes carefully.

I don’t want to rain on anyone’s cause parade, but let’s compare a few causes.

Squirrels or freedom?

Forests or family?

Whales or the birth of a child?

There are many others…and honestly, I’m not trying to discredit anyone’s cause.  I just think we all need to recognize that we have a certain amount of time on this earth, and prioritizing that time is pretty significant. When we meet our Maker, as many believe we will, I can imagine we’ll be making a report of the causes for which we actively advocated.

In my humble opinion Family and Freedom should take precedence on anyone’s list.  However I was just reminded of a cause that I learned about several years ago at the UN.  A film was shown at one of the side events during a major UN Conference.  The film took us to the Brothels of Calcutta where children had been trafficked and sold as sex slaves.  I was appalled!  And the subject of the film literally gave me nightmares.  And then I left NYC and over the months and years I have forgotten that child sex slavery still exists.  Well it does.

This is a cause that every decent man and woman in the world should embrace. Demanding that this type of abuse must stop should be paramount, until pressure is so great that governments have to address the issue and stop the practice.  Information in the film strongly suggests that local governments are compliant with this practice.  Financially there are a lot of people who are benefiting from the trafficking of these young boys and girls… including government leaders and policemen.

If enough people made it their cause, and our voices were united around the world, the lives of these sweet innocent children will be saved.  Go to  LOVE146  to learn more.  Warning:  It’s going to break your heart!

Week-long Sex Strike? Really?

In Abortion, Abstinence, Birth Rate, Family Planning, Feminism, Health Care, motherhood, Population Control, Values, Women's Rights on March 13, 2012 at 9:03 am

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Rachel Allison

Townhall’s political editor, Guy Benson’s article caught my attention with the shocking title:  Liberal Women Plan “Sex Strike” to Protest Nonexistent Contraception Ban.

“Liberal Ladies Who Lunch” is the organization who is calling for the “Sex Strike.”

Quotes by “Liberal Ladies Who Lunch:”

“If our reproductive rights are denied, so are yours.”

“…if we lose our hard won rights to medical care, birth control and pregnancy choice, it won’t only affect women. Men will have to…go back to the days when they waited for or paid for sex.”

There are several things that bother me about the statements made by Liberal Ladies.

1.  A “Sex Strike” for a week?  Seven days without sex makes a statement?   It’s almost laughable.  Are these women afraid of losing their significant other if they hold out longer than a week?

2.  I would hope that there are women in the world who recognize the personal responsibility that accompanies adult decisions.  And unless a woman is raped, there is a decision involved when it comes to sex.

3.  “The health of the woman” is the statement we hear over and over and over again.  True Statement: “A healthy woman is able to conceive and bear children.”

Contraceptives and abortifacents prevent normal fertility of the woman and continued existence of newly conceived life in the womb.  Contraceptives and abortifacents are not designed to promote health.  They are designed to take consequences out of the decision to engage in sex.

4.  Sandra Fluke’s testimony doesn’t make sense to those of us who have used or are using contraceptives.  They just aren’t that expensive. And it’s all a matter of priority.  If there is very little money and if sex is a priority don’t stop at the neighborhood Starbucks. Pay for your own contraception. This entitlement mentality needs to change.  “I want ______ so you pay for it.  Where did that thinking come from?

5. With all the real heartbreak and need in the world why are we focusing our time and attention on sex? Has our society become so sex driven and self absorbed that we can’t seem to focus on loftier causes? I am a woman.  I enjoy sex with my husband. But sex is a balanced part of my life. I have books to read, projects to finish, travels to enjoy, service to give, beauty to experience, babies to hold, friends to help.  In other words, my life is rich and full and wonderful. I make it that way.

My advice to “Liberal Ladies Who Lunch:” Focus on loftier causes.  Your lives and those you love will become so much more rewarding.

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