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Are Mothers “Full and Equal Participants in the Economy”?

In Child Development, Education, Families, Feminism, Government, Health Care, Marriage, motherhood, Parenting, Schools, stay-at-home mom, The Family, Values, Women's Rights on November 4, 2014 at 9:07 am

mother teaching her childrenNathalie Bowman

Over the past few days, there has been an uproar among conservative Americans surrounding President Obama’s speech on October 31 at Rhode Island College. After he opened with a few jokes, mentioned going trick-or-treating with Michelle because his girls “are too old” and spent a few minutes extolling the virtues of his administration’s accomplishments, he finally got down to business with this statement,

 “And today, here at RIC, I want to focus on some common-sense steps we can take to help working families right now. In particular, I want to zero in on the choices we need to make to ensure that women are full and equal participants in the economy.”

 OK, that sounds promising-helping women be equal participants in the economy may be a good thing-but as he continued his speech, his point became clear that in order for this to happen, women must be in the workplace, not at home with their children.

 He mentioned parents who “have no choice but to put their kids in cheaper daycare that maybe doesn’t have the kinds of programming that makes a big difference in a child’s development.” Programming? Is that what they do at daycares? Program children? President Obama continues with the infamous statement that has been quoted many times:

 “And sometimes, someone, usually mom, leaves the workplace to stay home with the kids, which then leaves her earning a lower wage for the rest of her life as a result. And that’s not a choice we want Americans to make.”

 Ouch. That’s not a choice we want Americans to make? Note that he did not say, “that’s not a choice we want Americans to HAVE to make.” It’s simply not a choice “we”, whoever that is, want Americans to make.

Mom or Pre-school

President Obama continues, “So let’s make this happen.  By the end of this decade, let’s enroll 6 million children in high-quality preschool, and let’s make sure that we are making America stronger.  That is good for families; it’s also good for the children, because we know investing in high-quality early childhood education makes all the difference in the world, and those kids will do better.”

 We are making America stronger by having millions more children in “high quality preschool?” Unfortunately for those children, when the government preaches “high quality early childhood education”, it means more and earlier academics, which is the opposite of what preschool children need for brain development and optimal growth.

 So the goal is to get as many women in the workforce as possible and have the government in charge of daycares and preschools for millions more children, and that goal is better for families?  (If you are not familiar with this speech, see the full transcript here there are also good commentaries here and here)

 Mr Obama, being a stay at home mom is what my life’s purpose is. I am a mother of 8 children. Let me explain why I choose to stay home with them and why that is better for my children, and society.

10 Reasons I choose to be a stay at home mom (in no particular order):

  1. Because I stay at home with my children, nobody else knows them as well as I do, and as a result, I am much better at guiding them in the directions that will help them most. We have wonderful, substantial conversations.
  2. I get to teach my children how to garden, grow their own food, and eat healthy. We love spending time together in the kitchen making yummy and healthy things to eat, and our family dinners are central to our family culture.
  3. I love to slow down and look into my child’s eyes and really see the greatness in them as we spend quality and quantity time together.
  4. As a homeschool mom, I have an opportunity to teach my children many things. We love learning together. I thoroughly enjoy watching my children’s delight at learning something new.
  5. I can care for my children and work from home, scheduling clients according to the needs of my family. I can take time off whenever my family needs me, and I am free to create a small business to help support my family while I raise my children at home.
  6. I teach my children values and principles so when they grow up, they will have a solid foundation to stand on. They will respect, serve and love others as well as live their lives with integrity.
  7. I am free to take them to the park, the museum, or any number of wonderful activities when everyone else is at work.
  8. I am here for my children when they are ill. I have the privilege of nursing them back to health, without the stress of missing work or a deadline.
  9. I love to watch my children in free play and pretending. They are so creative and it’s entertaining to hear their conversations as they work up a new plot. I also love to jump in and play with them. Play is central to their learning when they are little.
  10. I get to spend at least an hour every morning reading out loud to my children. We love our reading time. Reading together is great bonding for a family. We talk about what we are reading and learn valuable life lessons from the characters and situations in the book.

That’s 10 already, and I haven’t even gotten to the most important one, so here it is:

  1. By staying home with my children and creating a family culture of love, respect, learning, understanding, forgiving, working and playing together, I am raising children who will be mature, hard-working adults who love and serve others and positively contribute to society. They will not be dependent on government to take care of them, but instead, will take care of themselves and their families.

 That, Mr. President, is how I choose to be a “full and equal participant in the economy.”  Being a stay at home mom is much more important to me than any “programming” or “education” my children will “benefit” from in government run daycare or preschool. It is also more important than any wage I could earn. Being a mother is the most important job I am doing in order to benefit society and my family. I applaud dedicated mothers everywhere.

Moms, you are doing great work!


Women as Breeders?

In adoption, Child Abuse, Child Development, Courts, Divorce, Families, father, Feminism, Free Speech, Gender, Homosexuality, Human Rights, Marriage, Media, motherhood, Parental Rights, Same-Sex Marriage, Sexual Orientation, The Family, Values, Women's Rights on October 28, 2014 at 7:52 am

gays and childrenNathalie Bowman

As same-sex marriage becomes legal across the country, same sex parenting is entering the picture now more than ever. What is the long term effect on children raised in the LGBT world? What of the women who are used to grow babies and sell them to same-sex couples?  Although some gay couples have children from prior heterosexual relationships, many are now wanting to adopt babies specifically produced by other women for them. Is there a possibility of women being turned into breeders so gay men can raise children?

 The following article, written by Rivka Edleman, a woman who was raised by a lesbian mother, gives us insight on the subject:

 Ruthless Misogyny: Janna Darnelle’s Story and Extreme LGBT Activism

by  Rivka Edelman

Janna Darnelle’s recent Public Discourse essay, “Breaking the Silence: Redefining Marriage Hurts Women Like Me—and Our Children,” reveals what is behind the heartwarming pictures of gay families from a mother’s point of view. As someone who was raised by a lesbian mother, I would like to weigh in. I will comment not only as a former child who was once all smiles in those pictures, but also as an academic, a woman, a mother, and a feminist.

Darnelle’s essay struck a nerve and went viral. It is not surprising that, within a few hours, LGBT activists had taken up arms against her. Keyboard warriors manned the ramparts. Soon, the usual thugs took up their clubs and pitchforks.

For those of you who avoid the subterranean landscape of online same-sex parenting debates, it is useful to be introduced to Scott “Rose” Rosenzweig, a virulently misogynistic LGBT activist. As soon as Darnelle’s essay was published, Rose went into action, darting from the blog Good As You to other sites in an effort to destroy her personally. (Rose’s obsessive internet commenting has attracted attention at other news outlets as well.) Darnelle’s ex-husband even weighed in. A helpful fellow, he left her personal information in the comments section of several activists’ blogs, including her full legal name.

Janna Darnelle wrote under a pen name in order to protect her family. Unfortunately, her ex-husband’s comments helped Scott Rose embark on a campaign of harassment and intimidation. As I will discuss below, Rose was not content to confine his character assassination to the internet; he has also contacted Darnelle’s employer in an attempt to get her fired.

Readers will recall that Darnelle’s essay discusses her divorce from her ex-husband and her struggles as a single mother to provide a sense of family. Although her conclusions are controversial, her story is well-written and articulate. Sadly, the hate-driven response from extremist LGBT activists and bloggers confirms what many women are beginning to realize. While these activists laud the ex-husband for “living his truth,” they hold women and children in such contempt that they refuse to recognize the legitimacy of Janna’s account of her difficult experiences as a mother. Although they purport to represent the disadvantaged, certain wings of the LGBT-rights movement function as all-white men’s rights groups. In our contemporary climate, these men are allowed to do great harm to women and children with impunity.

Erasing and Exploiting Women

On the most superficial level, what Darnelle described could have parallels in a heterosexual divorce. In most cases, a woman’s standard of living drops significantly after a divorce, while men’s goes up significantly. So, in that sense, there was nothing surprising in Janna’s story: the judge favored the husband, who had a steady high income.

The bloggers and activists who comment at Jeremy Hooper’s Good as You blog have used this judge’s decision to suggest that Darnelle was an unfit mother. Darnelle’s piece did not give details about the family’s custody arrangement, but I have confirmed that the mother has 60 percent custody of the children. This indicates that she has not been found to be “unfit” in any way.

The “unfit mother” trope is very important, because it helps justify taking women’s children, eggs, or the use of their uteri. Darnelle is right. Many families headed by gay male couples are built upon exploitation of women.

Read more….


Win at the Supreme Court

In Abortion, Courts, Democracy, Diane Robertson, Drug Use, Family Planning, Free Speech, Gender, Government, Health Care, Human Rights, Population Control, Religious Freedom, Sanctity of Life, Supreme Court, Values, Women's Rights on July 2, 2014 at 6:24 am

Hobby Lobby Supreme Court decisionDiane Robertson

Monday morning in the west, we awoke to the good news that the Supreme Court actually sided with Hobby Lobby and Conestoga Wood!! These companies and other companies that can show “closely held” religious beliefs can opt out of the HHS contraceptive mandate. A win for religious freedom—yes! A sweeping win for religious freedom—no.

The justices limited their ruling to laws made by the federal government. If a state makes a law that limits the religious freedom of business owners, this ruling will not apply. The Supreme Court could have ruled that every American citizen could run their own companies according their consciences. As Matt Walsh put it:

“This ruling is a limited victory for freedom and sanity, but it doesn’t go nearly far enough. The justices could have issued a sweeping decision fortifying every person’s right to run their lives and their companies according to the dictates of their conscience, rather than the dictates of an authoritarian government bureaucracy. Instead, they focused the issue down to the specifics of Hobby Lobby’s particular situation, meaning that other companies, businesses, and corporations will still be subject to Orwellian speech infringements.”

And of course, if anyone is still under the belief that Judges aren’t partisan, here is another 5 to 4 ruling along party lines. As is often the norm, more conservative Justices Samuel Alito, Clarence Thomas, Antonin Scalia, and chief Justice John Roberts joined by the most independent Justice Anthony Kennedy ruled in favor of Hobby Lobby and the more liberal justices Sonia Sotomayor, Stephen Breyer, Elena Kagan, and Ruth Ginsburg ruled against Hobby Lobby.

As a conservative, I am quite happy about this ruling and hope and pray that none of the conservative justices retire until after 2016. There is always hope for the future right?

Some in the media will accuse the men who ruled in favor of religious freedom as furthering the war on women and taking away women’s reproductive rights. That is just silliness.

Unlike Justice Ginsburg, who in her dissent lamented: “The ability of women to participate equally in the economic and social life of the Nation has been facilitated by their ability to control their reproductive lives.”  Women need not be concerned with how well they can participate in the economic and social life of this nation. This ruling in no way limits women’s ability to get birth control. Women are still free to purchase any birth control they want. They are still free to apply for work with whatever employer provides the sort of health insurance they want. Women are still free, and now business owners are free from burdensome federal laws that keep them from acting according to their consciences.


Waiting on Another Religious Liberty Case at the Supreme Court

In Abortion, Constitution, Courts, Democracy, Diane Robertson, Free Speech, Government, Health Care, Human Rights, Religion, Religious Freedom, Sanctity of Life, Supreme Court, Values, Women's Rights on June 25, 2014 at 8:03 am

freedom of religion in USADiane Robertson

We live in an age of entitlement. People believe they are owed things by the government or others. Unfortunately, we live in an age where the government typically agrees with this attitude of entitlement. Regardless of the desires and convictions of anyone else, many people feel what they want is most important and with or without force, those services and goods must be provided to them. These people and the current government want to force everyone else to provide services even if those services violate the deeply held religious convictions of the ones providing. Many of these cases have involved gay rights verses religious rights. The current case awaiting a ruling at the Supreme Court involves abortifacient drugs.

In March, the Supreme Court heard arguments in two cases: Sebelius v. Hobby Lobby Stores and Conestoga Wood Specialties Corp v. Sebelius. These cases focus on the HHS mandate portion of the Obamacare law. The HHS mandate requires all employers to supply insurance that covers all contraceptives approved by the FDA as well as sterilizations without a co-pay. Some religions such as the Catholic Church discourages sterilization and contraceptive use. Some FDA approved contraceptives, such as Plan B , are known as abortifacient drugs. One way Plan B works is to prevent an already fertilized egg from implanting by irritating the lining of the uterus. By not allowing a fertilized egg to implant, Plan B causes an early abortion.

The Green family who owns Hobby Lobby and the Hahn family who owns Conestoga Wood contend that being the source of abortifacient drugs for their employees violates their religious beliefs.

To appease religious employers and avoid lawsuits, the Obama administration offered nonprofits an “accommodation,” requiring the insurer to pay for the questionable drugs. Of course, that is simply an accounting gimmick. Employers still remain the legal gateway for their employees to obtain these drugs and Obamacare is still the gateway by which these employees are forced to supply them.

Emily Minick, a senior legislative assistant at the Family Research Council further explains the problems the HHS mandate causes for religious employers and all Americans:

“The HHS mandate is also a slippery slope. The text of Obamacare never mentioned that individuals or family businesses would be forced to provide all government-approved contraceptives and drugs. Rather, Obamacare only required that all health care plans cover ‘preventative care services for women,’ which the Department of Health and Human Services interprets to include the above-mentioned drugs and services. What is to stop a future administration from posting a new blog and interpreting ‘preventive care services for women’ to require all health care plans to cover surgical abortions without a co-pay?”

By not offering strong religious exemptions, the HHS mandate is essentially another attack on religious freedom in America. The first amendment began a Constitutional mandate resulting in a tradition of religious exemptions. These exemptions have always been offered and honored. Through the history of the United States, these exemptions have protected many religious people no matter their religion or sect. Quakers have not had to fight in wars. Muslims have not had to transport alcohol. During prohibition, Catholics and Jews were allowed to use wine for their religious rituals. In more recent times, doctors and nurses have not had to participate in assisted suicides, abortions, and prisoner executions.  Pharmacists have not had to distribute abortifacient drugs.

These exemptions have served America well. They have made it possible for many people of different faiths and beliefs to live peaceably under the laws together in one nation. The attitude of entitlement and entitlement laws such as the HHS mandate threatens this. In just a few more days, the Supreme Court will have a decision on these very important cases. Please pray for the justices to continue with the Constitutional mandate of religious freedom for all.






CSW and Sexual Rights

In Abortion, Abstinence, AIDS, Child Development, Diane Robertson, Education, Families, Feminism, Government, Meet UFI, motherhood, Parental Rights, Parenting, Pedophilia, Sex Education, The Family, UN, Values, Women's Rights on March 26, 2014 at 8:37 pm

UN 2Diane Robertson

The Commission on the Status of Women (CWS) is a functional commission of the United Nations Economic and Social Council (ECOSOC). Each year delegates from 45 countries meet at the U.N. headquarters in NY to formulate concrete policies on women worldwide.

Volunteers from United Families International just spent the past week in NYC presenting and assisting delegates in formulating the wording in certain “outcome documents”. The language found in these outcome documents gets used everywhere and becomes known as ‘customary international law’. The phrases in the outcome documents have tremendous influence worldwide. United Families is there to help assure that the critical wording in these documents is family friendly. This is clearly a tough job. While the stated purpose of the conference, based on 8millenial goals (MDG’s), are eradicating extreme poverty and hunger, achieve a universal primary education, promote gender equality and empower women, reduce child mortality rates, improve maternal health, combat disease like HIV/AIDS and malaria, ensure environmental sustainability, and develop global partnerships, there are many NGO’s that use these goals to push comprehensive sexual education and sexual rights for children.

Carolina-Kawika Allen attended CSW with other UFI volunteers. She states:

“Certain NGOs have more sway and power at the UN. Many are using this power to create temporary fixes with long term devastation and oppression. Let me explain… While here at this conference it is clear to see how the solutions posed by very influential NGOs, promoting terms like, ‘reproductive health care for women and girls’, ‘child sexual rights’, ‘comprehensive sexual education’, etc. are in reality something else entirely.

Take for example the Goliath-NGO, International Planned Parenthood Federation (IPPF), with its most recent campaign ‘Exclaim’ for ‘child sexual rights’. Here you find that, and I quote, ‘Young people must be able to explore, experience and express their sexuality. They are entitled to do this in positive, pleasurable and safe ways. To secure young people’s sexual rights we must understand how human rights apply to young people’s sexuality’. Note that they are linking human rights directly with sexual rights, a legal move that is intended to codify sexuality in children, with the intent to eventually become legally binding. This campaign never even specifies how young, and in several places the word ‘child’ is actually used.”

 As side event on human sex trafficking of children occurred, language that would have children as young as 5 taught masturbation, children as young as 13 introduced to pornography in the name of “sexual health”, and abortion services provided for every young woman by the age of 15 was being debated. Carolina exclaimed, “I sat in my chair fuming at the idea that the very language being included in these outcome documents were essentially ‘grooming’ children as a sexual predator would groom his victim.”

The term “Family” has become the most controversial word at the U.N.  Countries that still believe that strong families are the solution to the MDG goals such as eradicating poverty, and hunger, educating children and stopping the spread of diseases are few and weak. They are mainly African, Polynesian, and Middle Eastern nations. The delegates from these countries are under extreme pressure to give way to the sexual rights agenda of the powerful NGO’s. They need the help of the few family friendly groups such as United Families International to stand strong in favor of the family.

Carolina concludes by calling upon the good strong women of the world to help fight the sexual right’s agenda in order to secure the safety of the child/parent relationship and the safety of children around the world. She declares:

“What I have found is the TREMENDOUS need for women, faithful, family centered, child-protecting, women–women like you and me who aren’t ashamed to claim and fight for their families–women who proudly claim their faith—strong and mighty women, who will fight for their children and the world’s children.”

2014 the Dirty Dozen List

In Constitution, date rape, Democracy, Domestic Violence, Education, Government, Media, Pedophilia, Pornography, Prostitution, Values, Violence, Women's Rights on March 6, 2014 at 11:28 am

Porn-Harms-Effects-on-ChildrenRachel Allison

A good friend of mine is fighting Agenda 21.

Another friend is educating neighbors and friends on our Constitution and its guaranteed freedoms.

My neighbor down the street shelters dogs in need of a good home.

I learned years ago, that there aren’t enough hours in the day or days in the week that would allow me to get involved in all good causes. But yesterday I was introduced to a cause that persuades me to make time for this one. I received the following email.

We need your help! Please join us in publicly recognizing these twelve as responsible parties in the spread of pornography and exploitation. Help us call on them to change their ways.

The email came from a Dawn Hawkins, Executive Director to  Porn Harms .  Her organization’s Morality in the Media, had made a list of twelve leading contributors to sexual exploitation. They titled their list, 2014 the Dirty Dozen List.  I couldn’t believe what I read.


Attorney General Eric Holder – Mr. Holder refuses to enforce existing federal obscenity laws against hardcore adult pornography, despite the fact that these laws have been upheld by the U.S. Supreme Court and effectively enforced by previous attorneys general.

Verizon – Verizon pushes porn into our homes now through hardcore pay-per-view movies on FIOS, smart phones, and tablets and as an Internet Service Provider with insufficient filtering options.

Sex Week – Yale and other colleges and universities repeatedly offer Sex Week on campus. Porn stars are routinely invited to lecture and pornography that glamourizes “fantasy rape” is screened.

Google – Google’s empire thrives on porn. Porn is easily available, even to children, through YouTube, GooglePlay, Google Images and Google Ads.

Tumblr – This popular social media blogging site bombards users with porn. Users must only be 13 and the filters do not work.

50 Shades of Gray – This bestselling book series and upcoming movie are normalizing sexual violence, domination, and torture of women. Oprah Winfrey Network, Broadway and other mainstream outlets have even promoted this abusive lifestyle.

Facebook – Facebook has become a top place to trade pornography, child pornography and for sexual exploitation. Facebook’s guidelines prohibit such behavior, but the company is doing little to enforce them.

Barnes & Noble – This Fortune 500 Company is a major supplier of adult pornography and child erotica.  They regularly put pornography near the children’s sections in their stores and provide free, unfiltered porn publications on their Nook e-reader.

Hilton – This hotel chain, like Hyatt, Starwood and many other top hotel chains, provides hardcore pornography movie choices. Porn channels are often the first advertisement on their in-room TVs.

Playstation – PlayStation’s live-streaming abilities are filling thousands of homes with live porn and the PlayStation Store sells hundreds of pornographic and sexually violent games.

American Library Association – The ALA encourages public libraries to keep their computers unfiltered and allow patrons, including children, to access pornography.

Cosmopolitan Magazine – The magazine is a full-on pornographic, “how-to” sex guide, encouraging women to accept the pornified culture around them. They specifically market this content to teen girls.

The action that we choose to take whether it be in the form of letters, petitions, boycotts or donations will make a difference…this is a cause worth fighting. Spread the word!




Date Rape and Sexual Assault

In date rape, Drug Use, Human Rights, Parental Rights, Parenting, Sanctity of Life, Sex Education, The Family, Values, Violence, Women's Rights on November 27, 2013 at 2:12 pm

date rape

by Kristi Kane

During my last year of college, a young man in one of my creative writing classes wrote a story about a young woman who had been raped. I still remember the opening line of his story written in first person, in which the victim says of the rape, “I don’t know if I liked it or not…” His story made him the target of open hostility among the female students. Two of the young women began crying. I was one of them.

Years earlier, when I was barely 16, my best friend and I double dated one evening with our boyfriends. My best friend’s boyfriend drove a small car, an old VW bug, and during the drive, my boyfriend slid over to my side of the car and started kissing me. I didn’t mind that, but suddenly he became forceful and pinned my hands behind my back with one hand, and with the other, groped my private region. I was literally screaming for him to stop, but he kept at it until his friend (the one driving), realized I was serious and told him to stop. Even then he kept touching me for a few seconds, then scooted back to his side of the car and started laughing. I can assure you that I did NOT like it!

I asked my friend’s date to drive me home. All I remember is going home and getting ready for bed. Once in bed, I lay there feeling violated and guilty. Did I do something to make him do that to me? What should I do? Should I tell my parents? I didn’t sleep that night. I had a sick feeling in my gut that didn’t leave for some time. I didn’t tell my parents what had happened for almost five years. By then my family had moved to another state. I was afraid to tell my parents before because I was afraid of what my Dad would do to this boy. I didn’t want anyone to know. I didn’t want trouble with this boy or his friends. I was so humiliated, and felt so guilty. I just wanted the whole situation to go away.

Now that I am an adult, I wish I had come right home and told my parents. Even though I felt like throwing up, and even though I was worried about the consequences, I should have told them. Ironically, I was worried about what my telling would do to that boy’s future. While I was not technically “raped,” (rape is described as “physically forcing a woman (or man) to have sexual intercourse), I was sexual assaulted.  Sexual assault is described as “any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient.”

The Role of Drugs and Alcohol in Date Rape

In the mid-1990’s, the date rape drug was brought to the forefront of the press. Several big magazines wrote stories about it, several talk shows spotlighted it. Alcohol is the most common drug used for DFSA (drug facilitated sexual assault). Often women will willingly drink alcohol in a business or social setting. If they drink to the point of intoxication or drink a beverage that has secretly or openly been tainted with a date rape drug, they are only aware of a potential rape if one or all of the following have happened: they regain consciousness and discover that they are in a different location, they have disarranged clothing, there is the  presence of semen, vaginal or anal soreness, they awake feeling woozy or confused with little or no memory of what happened.

Date rape drugs are easy to be found. They include prescription sleep aids (Ambien being the most prevalent), and tranquilizers (Valium, Librium, Xanax or Activan). The most common, however, is alcohol.  In 90% of date rapes, alcohol is involved . Practically any drug (either secretly or openly administered), could be considered a date-rape drug if it is used to facilitate rape.

If you have been raped, or suspect you may have been raped, it is important for you to go to a medical facility immediately. The medical facility will treat you, complete a forensic analysis (collecting hairs, fluids and fibers for evidence), and contact the police if you wish to file a report. If you have been raped or sexually assaulted, report it to the police. Seek counseling. Rape is a crime. Sexual assault is a crime. The predators who commit these acts are criminals and deserve to be penalized for what they have done. To not report it, may expose another victim to their violent behavior.

Parents’ Role in Keeping Children Safe

To parents,  I cannot state emphatically enough how important it is for you to be aware of your children’s whereabouts and for you to meet your children’s dates. I’ve had times when my “creepy crawly” radar has gone off, and I have not let my girls leave with a date. My husband has literally chased off a couple of boys too. Look at your children’s faces when they come home from a date. Often their countenance and/or body language will tell you if there is a problem. (It may seem extreme, but my husband and I literally have GPS trackers on our children’s phones so we know where they are.) Use common sense. Partying may expose you to assault and/or rape. Use the buddy system. Do not be alone with a member of the opposite sex, or especially with several members of the opposite sex. If you decide to drink, do not drink to the point of intoxication. Do not drink from a cup that has been handed to you. Pour your own drink and keep it in your possession. Better yet, just do not drink. That leaves you in control of your own faculties.

Some of the information, facts and statistics on date rape and sexual assault are found on the following website. Please read it. It is quite alarming.


And in my early college years, my Dad gave me the book, “Tough Target: The Street-Smart Guide to Staying Safe,” by JJ Bittenbinder and William Neal. He made me read it, and I’ve never been sorry I did. The point of this article is not to scare you, just to make you aware.

For those of you who need help, please call the Rape Crisis Hotline at 800-656-HOPE.

“Lioness at the Gate”

In Child Development, Education, Families, Feminism, Grandparents, Marriage, motherhood, Parenting, stay-at-home mom, The Family, UN, Values, Women's Rights, working mothers on April 2, 2013 at 11:04 am


Rachel Allison

As major conferences are held at the United Nations, men and women from all over the world come to New York City to support a particular cause or share their grievances with those who will listen.  Many plan what are called “side events” and these side events are calendared and publicized with the hopes that conference participants will attend.

In 2007 I was attending The Conference, Commission on the Status of Women, and I attended one such side event that was taking place.

Five beautiful women, all from Sweden, had traveled to New York City to ask that their roles as “mother” and their desire to be a “stay-at-home mother” be acknowledged as a meaningful, respectable and even crucial role in society.

Their grievance was that unless Swedish women are working outside the home they are looked down upon as non-contributors of society…even parasites of those willing to work for the betterment of Sweden and its economy.

One woman shared with us the statistics of Sweden’s growth and envied economy.  But she said that the statistics that are not so commonly shared are the statistics of child suicide and the rampant depression in the women who are told that they can and should “do it all.”  …Be a contributing member of society and a woman who can keep a household and family running in organized and top order.   She said that government call centers have been provided for children who are home and feeling depressed.  But these call centers are not statistically diminishing the suicide rate.

As these five young women spoke out about their frustrations and their desire to be considered contributing members of society as they stay home to care for their children, my heart ached for them and the children of such a culture.

In more recent years I spoke with a Swedish woman who did not have the same impression of her country.  She felt that her government did encourage women to stay at home at least during the first years of their children’s lives.  She was an older woman, more a grandmother’s age.  And I wondered where the truth actually lies.

I recently read an article by Julie B. Beck where she referred to a mother’s role as being compared with a “Lioness at the gate of the home….she guards that gate, and things matter to that family if they matter to her.”  I have thought about that analogy numberless times, and as I have reflected upon the years when my five active children were in the home, I can see that her comparison is extremely insightful.  My thoughts have turned to the numerous times with each of my children when if I had not been available or vigilant or willing to “snarl and claw” my children could have been “carried away” by the influences that exist to destroy their productive lives.  Anyone having had teenage children will know exactly what I’m talking about…. teenagers living in our society need I lioness standing guard, not a pussy cat, or worse yet a distracted pussy cat.

Those who attended the UN side event were as frustrated with the situation as the five women living it in their home country. The debate and conversation was spirited and supportive of their plight.

At one point I spoke saying, “We can have it all…and we can do it all.  After all, we are women.  However, there is a time and a season to all things.  There is a season for us to get our education and develop talents and skills.  And there is a season to have children and love and support and teach and guide them until they can travel through life on their own.  And there is a time and season for a career and self-indulgence.  But these seasons of our lives do not run concurrently.  Most of the time they come in consequential order and spacing.  That is the only way we can have it all and take care of that which is most important for the season of our lives we are in.  It’s when we try to do things out of season that our efforts are frustrated and we experience failure.”  Neither my thoughts nor words were  original. I do not take credit for them.   They are found in Ecclesiastes Chapter 3.  And the entire room erupted in applause and a standing ovation.  The truth rings true to those that “hear.”



Countries Manipulated by the Media

In Abortion, UFI, UN, Women's Rights on March 21, 2013 at 4:47 pm

CSW 2013Carol Soelberg

Late on Friday, the UN negotiating room erupted in cheers as anti-family activists welcomed the adoption of the “Agreed Conclusions” for the Commission on Status of Women (CSW) 57th session.  Two weeks of intense negotiations had produced a document that was less than favorable to the cause of family and of life.  United Families representatives, along with other members of the pro-family/pro-life coalition, had gone late into the night monitoring negotiations, providing options for language, and working to shore up the family-friendly delegations.  In the end, however, it became clear that one of our biggest opponents had been the media.

Before CSW even began, media was circulating the meme that the delegations of Russia, Iran, the Holy See, Pakistan, were going to work to stymie negotiations.  The articles (examples here and here) implied that nations that are conservative in worldview and adhere to religion and traditional cultural values were complicit in promoting violence against women.  (Eliminating Violence against Women and Girls” was the theme of the two-week gathering.)  The news articles made it clear that if the outcome document failed (as it did last year) that it would be the fault of these nations and their delegations.

At about 5:30 pm on the final day, the negotiation’s facilitator announced that a “Chairman’s text” was now going to be used as the final version.  There was no word as to who had actually been involved in compiling the text. It was a stunning turn of events because the Chairman’s text retained much of the language that pro-family countries had opposed for weeks and yet the compilers of the text had simply dropped many of the pro-life/pro-family phrases and paragraphs.  In the end, few delegations spoke out against the Chairman’s text or registered reservations and it was adopted.

The anti-family contingents at CSW were not going to let this document fail and it appeared that the media campaign against the pro-family position had done its job.  The voices of our usually out-spoken and assertive pro-family delegations had been tempered.  Long-time UN watchers observed that if the text had gone to an actual counted vote, pro-family delegations did not have sufficient enough numbers to defeat the Chairman’s text so why should they risk the wrath of the media and the liberal delegations, when opposing the draft in the final moments would not have affected the outcome anyway.  “It was a done deal from the beginning,” one observer noted.

Specific Outcomes of CSW 57 “Agreed Conclusions”

Some of the troubling language:

  • Multiple references to “sexual and reproductive” health care/services/rights (used to promote abortion).
  •   “gender-related crimes” in the context of the International Criminal Court; “gender-based violence” causing “…psychological harm or suffering…”  (“Gender” is often used in the context of acknowledging and promoting homosexual behaviors.)
  • Deletion of the paragraph supporting a nation’s sovereign rights, “…with full respect for the various religious and ethical values and cultural backgrounds of its people, and conformity with universally recognized international human rights.”

Some successes:

  • Gone from text are references to “sexual or gender orientation” or “gender-identity”  (The opposition was saddened by its loss, noting that it referred to “women who love other women”.)  References to “intimate partner” “intimate relationships” were also removed.  (This is language intended to normalize out-of-wedlock sexual relations.)
  • An inclusion of the troubling language of “comprehensive sexuality education” but qualified with this important phrase: “…with the appropriate direction and guidance from parents and legal guardians…”
  • Inclusions of need to eliminate “prenatal sex selection,” “forced hysterectomy,” forced sterilization,” forced use of contraceptives”

A Bad Document, but a Great Education!  

Students at UNUnited Families International conducted a parallel event called:  “Eliminating Violence against Women and Girls: What does the research say?”  To a packed room, we presented a wealth of evidence that the safest place for women and children is in a stabled, married, heterosexual household.   Included in the event was a short presentation on the horrific practice of sex-selective abortion (the systematic termination of unborn females).   At the completion of the presentation, a young Hungarian woman approached one of the college students who was part of the UFI team and mentioned that prior to our presentation she “had never before considered how women, and human beings in general, have rights before they are born.”

The UFI team was pleased to recognize once again that the real win is in the heart and mind of each individual.   We came away with a long list of individuals from around the world who requested a copy of the power point so they could share the research with others.  Every individual who becomes convinced of the necessity of the family in providing a safe place for women, adds one more powerful voice in defense of the family.

The UFI team, which consisted of six college students, their two professors, and UFI’s other volunteers, were able to visit twelve UN Missions.  They delivered UFI’s Negotiating Guide and the book on the importance of Family Capital in meeting the Millennium Development Goals.  Mission visits are a wonderful way to become acquainted with the delegates, offer support and encouragement for their difficult task of standing firm against the huge wall of opposition, and to spread a pro-family/pro-life message.

Lastly, we were also supported by a group of dedicated students from Patrick Henry College.  We thank them for their work.  Please take a minute to check out some of their blog posts (below).  You’ll gain some interesting insights into the Commission on the Status of Women.

It does not surprise us that the UN commissions become increasingly resistant to family-friendly documents.  But we will not give up!  We will continue to work with the International pro-family coalition to discover ways to protect the family and stop the progress of the opposition.  We learned this time the power the media can play in the UN and we will be prepared to fight that battle in the future.  We know that those of our team who experienced the UN for the first time have seen another side of the opposition and they left more empowered to defend the family on all levels.

We wish you could all have that experience and hope that our report lights a fire in your hearts to continue the critical work of protecting and strengthening the family.

Carol2Carol Soelberg
President, United Families International


Remembering CSW

In Child Development, Education, Families, father, Health Care, Human Rights, Marriage, motherhood, Parental Rights, Parenting, Population Control, Sanctity of Life, Schools, The Family, UFI, UN, Values, Women's Rights on March 12, 2013 at 2:03 pm


Rachel Allison

This week is the final week of the “Commission on the Status of Women,” a conference being held at the United Nations in New York City.  United Families International has several volunteers at the UN working to influence pro-life and pro-family language into the outcome documents that will soon become International Law.

As important as this lobbying is, those in our delegation also have opportunity to support women who have come from all over the world to speak to UN delegations concerning their difficult situations at home. Until we hear their stories many of us cannot fathom the situations these good women are experiencing.  In past years I have heard women speak about human slave and sex trafficking.  Their laws and police force do not protect them or their children from such atrocities.   I have heard women talk about watching other women stoned to death without trial or jury.  I have heard women talk about laws that do not protect their 10, 11, and 12 year-old daughters from being bought and subjected to marriage and pregnancy…pregnancy that often causes the unborn baby to die within the womb of the child bride because her body is not mature enough to give birth.

I’m not at CSW (Commission on the Status of Women) this year, but I am trying to read as much as I can about what is happening as they try to direct this year’s focus on eliminating violence against women. I just read an article by someone who is at the conference.  His words brought back vivid memories of needs and concerns that are too often sidelined.

“During the waning days of the conference’s first week and well into this most recent weekend,  I watched and listened as African women discussed and debated the all-important Outcome Document amongst themselves.  Luckily for me, English is their common language and as I sat beside them in the Business Center of our clean but quite modest hotel late into the night on Saturday AND Sunday, I heard their concerns.”

“They are worried about their daughter’s AND son’s education; they want access to potable water in the more remote regions of their respective countries; more doctors, and in keeping with          this year’s conference theme, they want real life-and-death protection for their daughters.”

As I read his article, I was taken back to the years when I attended CSW, and my heart went out to these women who are desperate for help.  I have personally seen women who have to walk miles for potable water.  I have seen the small dark tents where 15+ children huddle to be taught reading and simple arithmetic. I have seen villages whose only “doctor” is a witch doctor who uses the same needle on his patients until it is too dull to be used again.  I have seen mother’s grieve over the loss of a child to dehydration, snakebite, and disease when there was no medicine or help to save.

We who can’t imagine raising a family in such living conditions should count our blessings, and determine that we will give selflessly to strengthen our families, and then support causes that can lift and help the struggling.

Because I have seen what I have seen, and experienced what I have experienced, I cannot, without guilt, spend time on the trivial.  I’m grateful for that guilt.  There are causes too vital not to get involved.  I try to examine my priorities every day. And then I pray like the dickens that my efforts will make a difference.


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