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Cohabitation and Children’s Well-Being

In Child Abuse, Child Development, Choice, Cohabitation, Domestic Violence, Families, Health Care, Marriage, Parenting, Pedophilia, Sexual Freedom, Single Mothers, Values, Violence, working mothers on September 29, 2015 at 1:25 pm

holding hands almostBy: Deborah Wene

Families and cultures around the world have different views on cohabitation and there are some who do not see anything wrong with it. A couple of years ago, my older sister decided to cohabitate with her then boyfriend of 2 years. Prior to her decision of cohabitation, she had a 5-year-old daughter with her previous boyfriend whom she met in college. Because she was well off financially, her boyfriend decided to let her move in with her child.  Before she knew it, her boyfriend was living on her income because they signed an agreement to share everything equally. Her boyfriend quit his job and spent most of his time at home, “taking care” of my niece while my sister went to work. Little by little, her boyfriend started to abuse her daughter emotionally, physically and sexually. Even though marriage was their long-term goal, my sister also faced abuse from her boyfriend. Their relationship was not equal and her boyfriend was very domineering  and controlled everything including her money. Despite all the trials and the downsides of cohabitation, my sister loves him and believes that it will get better,and that he would never really hurt her daughter.

Even though my sister may not see any harm with cohabitation, there are many downsides and negative impacts of cohabitation. Cohabitation,  defined as “two adults of the opposite sex living together in an intimate, non-marital relationship” [1], can be very harmful. There are so many reasons why cohabitation can be a threat to family. One of those reasons, the reason I really want to focus on, is the impact cohabitation has on children physically, emotionally, socially and even financially. My sister’s daughter went through hard times because of her mother’s decision to live with her boyfriend. Family is very important to me and the respect that I have for families is beyond comprehension, but I am more convinced children suffer more than adults or parents when it comes to cohabitation.

Researchers Thomas DeLeire and Ariel Kalil Harris (2005) did studies on how cohabiting couples with children spend their money. The result showed that “children have poorer developmental outcomes than do those growing up in married-parent families or even single-parent families. According to research cohabitating couples spend a substantially larger share of their total expenditure on alcohol and tobacco than do either married-parent families or single parents. Cohabiting couples with children also spend less on health care and less on education than do married parents” [2] This study shows the negative impact that cohabitation has on children.  This research was evident in my niece’s life. She has so many health problems and has a delay in learning development quite possibly due to the fact that my sister and her boyfriend would spend most of their money going to bars and wasting their money on meaningless things.

Children in a cohabitation relationship are more likely to suffer from abuse, and long-term scarring often result.  Most of the time, children are afraid to report or mention to someone about their abusive parent because they are afraid to get hurt even more and sometimes, they are regarded as liars or get punished if they talk to their biological parents about what is going on. Even though my niece was not able to do anything about what her mother’s boyfriend was doing to her, she seemed to fake happiness to cover the pain written all over her face. When her mother came home from work, she would pretend like nothing was wrong and needless to say, her mother never questioned her.

DeLeire and Harris were not the only researchers to study the subject of negative impacts that cohabitation has on children. Kammi K. Schmeer (2011) also did  research on the subject, but he focused more  on the child’s health disadvantages during parental cohabitation. The study shows that, “Children born to cohabiting parents are likely to have less healthy household environments than those born to married parents. Children with cohabiting parents may experience more parental stress, more maternal depression, less social and economic support from fathers or other extended family members and more parental conflict than those with married parents.” [3] This research shows that children who live with cohabiting parents deal with so many more problems than those  with married parents. Even though the focus of this paper is mainly on the impact cohabitation has on children, there are so many other negative impacts that cohabitation has on the couple, the family as a whole, and even  society.

A report in 2010 on child abuse by the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) found that “Children living with two married biological parents had the lowest rates of harm, 6.8 per 1,000 children. While children living with one parent who had an unmarried partner in the house had the highest incidence, at 57.2 per 1,000 children.”[4]   This goes on to show that children living in cohabiting households are 8 times more likely to be harmed than children living with married biological parents. Children are suffering because of their parents’ choices mostly because they are not capable of doing anything about their situation. This is something that needs to be dealt with– not just talk, but action. Those who see nothing wrong with cohabitation are ill-informed as to the consequences children are experiencing and suffering.


Work Cited:

DeLeire , T. and Kalil, A. (2005), How do cohabiting couples with children spend their money?.             Journal of Marriage and Family, 67: 286–295.

HHS Office of Planning, Research and Evaluation, (2010) Abuse,             Neglect, Adoption and Foster             Care Research, National Incidence Study of             Child Abuse and Neglect, NIS-4, 2004-             2009”

Schmeer, K. K. (2011), The Child Health Disadvantage of Parental Cohabitation. Journal of             Marriage and Family,             73: 181–193.

Stokes, C and Raley, R. K (2000), Civic Engagement, Adulthood: Cohabitation.             http://www.utexas.edu/cola/_files/kraley/StokesRaley.pdf


Deborah Wene is an intern at BYUI.  Her story of parents choosing to give her life rather than aborting her is shared with UFI readers in an earlier blog post.  She grew up in Africa and has a remarkable story of love of life, devotion to God, and respect for the family unit.

Deborah Wene

Other People’s Children

In Child Abuse, Child Development, Choice, date rape, Domestic Violence, Drug Use, Education, Families, Health Care, Media, Parenting, Pedophilia, Pornography, Schools, Sex Education, The Family, Values, Violence on August 11, 2015 at 7:58 am

abused childby Ally Fife

It was finally a sunny day after days of rain. My children were so excited to run outside and play. I glanced out the window to see how things were going, when I realized the whole neighborhood was in our backyard. Not an unusual occurrence for us, but somehow this time all I could think about is that I was responsible for all 14 children.  A statistic I had recently read came to mind. One in every ten children experience sexual abuse before their eighteenth birthday. At least one of these children in my backyard would face a lifetime of emotional and health problems, struggling through the healing process from such an experience. Could I possibly do anything to help prevent this from happening?

It is highly likely that you know a child who has been, or is being, abused.  Children make up 66% of all sexual offenses reported to law enforcement.  Ninety percent of child victims know and trust their abusers;  30% are abused by their own family members. Sadly, this means that it is also highly likely that you know a child abuser.

If we are concerned for the future of the family, we must also take steps to protect our children. We are not just responsible for our own children, but the hundreds we encounter at church, school, sports, and within our own neighborhoods. One child being hurt can cause a ripple effect for generations. One adult hurting a child  leads to further degeneration of future families and societies. Sexually abused children are more likely to be sexually promiscuous, inflict harm on themselves, become pregnant as teens,  abuse drugs and alcohol, run away, and exhibit violent and criminal behavior. In fact, trauma is often the root of what we label as bad behavior in children.

What can we do?

1)We need to learn the facts and then be observant. Eighty percent of child sexual abuse happens in one on one situations. So we must minimize the opportunity for the isolation of a child. This can be as simple as using the buddy system or opening closed doors.  

2)We must also be aware of how an offender works. Grooming is the process by which an offender draws a victim into a sexual relationship, and maintains the secrecy of the act. Often, they pay special attention to the child, offering gifts and outings. They treat the child as if they were older and cross physical boundaries, standing too close or rubbing their shoulders. They use secrecy, blame, and threats to maintain control and keep the child from talking. And they definitely try to confuse the child about what is right and wrong. Because of these manipulations, a child is often embarrassed to talk about what is happening to them. They feel ashamed and fearful, taking the blame on themselves.  

3) We must talk to our children about their bodies and the abuse of them. With younger children, we can talk about what touching and behavior is okay, and what is not.  Talking openly creates a bond with our children that makes them more open to telling us confidences as they mature. They will often shut down if we respond negatively or emotionally.

4) We need to recognize the signs of abuse in a child.  They are identifiable. Children who have been abused usually have more physical problems, such as anxiety, stomach pain, and headaches. They often experience bedwetting, failing grades, act cruelly to animals, set fires, and are bullied or bully others. They could display sexual behavior and use language that is not appropriate for their age. Unexplained depression, anger, withdrawal, fear, hyperactivity, or even the antithesis, too perfect behavior, can be further warning signs.

5) When we notice the signs, we can encourage conversations with a child by being open and specific about behaviors that concern us.  If a child has confided in you, listen and believe them.  File a report with your local law enforcement or child services.

Being responsible for the welfare of others can be overwhelming and scary. The abuse of children, however, is not going away unless we all do our part.   It’s a choice we must make, and a risk. Are my children worth it? Are yours? These are our children’s friends, our friends’ children, and our future families. Help them keep their innocence.

For more information and ways you can help, go to D2L.org


The APA: Not a Trusted Source

In Child Abuse, Diane Robertson, Gender, Gender Identity, Homosexuality, Pedophilia, Research, Sexual Orientation, Transgender on June 10, 2015 at 10:56 am

Alfred Kinseyby Diane Roberts

The American Psychiatric Association, APA, is usually considered the most relevant source for psychiatric disorders. What the APA determines about psychology and mental disorders, Universities and practicing psychologists and pschyatrists follow. The APA’s “Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders”, or DSM, is the Bible for mental health.

However, given the history of the APA, one should not consider the APA a source for truth, particularly concerning sexual disorders.

First, the APA bases much of their research and knowledge of human sexuality on the work of Alfred Kinsey. Alfred Kinsey is the founder of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Kinsey may be considered the father of the scientific field of human sexuality, but he was much more than that. Kinsey was a pedophile that hid behind science to sexually molest children in mass numbers. He classified the orgasms of children under age 5 as “screaming” “crying”, “convulsions” and “passing out”. As the table below proves, Kinsey would molest children for 24 hours straight. The infamous “Table 34” is a documentation of his research published in his book, Sexual Behavior of the Human Male, 1948.

Kinsey ChartInstead of renouncing Kinsey for the sexual predator he was, the APA has continued to use him as a source of their “scientific knowledge”.

Next the APA makes changes in their DSM according to what is politically correct. In 2012, after LGBT advocates had lobbied the APA to change or remove categories labeling transgender people in the DSM, arguing that terms like “Gender Identity Disorder” characterize all trans people as mentally ill, the APA did as asked and changed the category. Now transgender is not found under the category of mental disorders in the DSM. It has now been recategorized as “Gender Dysphoria” for displaying “a marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender.”

Finally, in 2013, the APA attempted to recategorize pedophilia in the same way it did in 2012 for transgender. According to an article in the Huffington Post, Ray Blanchard, who co-wrote the chapter on sexual disorders in the new DSM said, “The difference is, you’re not automatically saying that as soon as someone has a marked, unusual erotic interest that they have a mental disorder.” However, after public outcry, the APA changed it back.

The public ought to conclude that the APA is not above sexual criminal activity as a source for “scientific research” and that as an institution that is supposed to be the most relevant source for human mental health, it’s certainly allows too much influence from political groups and lobbyists. Thus the APA should not be a trusted source of scientific truth.



Child Innocence for Sale

In Child Abuse, Child Development, Drug Use, Government, Human Rights, Pedophilia, Prostitution, Sanctity of Life, UN, Values, Violence on April 3, 2015 at 12:25 pm

help me child traffickingLinda Ash

I was just reminded of a shocking reality that I learned about several years ago at a major  UN Conference. A film was shown at one of the side events that took us to the brothels of Calcutta where children had been trafficked and sold as sex slaves. I was appalled! And the subject of the film literally gave me nightmares.

And then I left NYC and over the months and years I had forgotten that child-sex slavery is still very real to the innocent and helpless children who live it everyday. This is a cause that every decent man and woman in the world should embrace and battle. Demanding that this type of abuse must stop should be a focal point cause, until pressure is so great that governments have to address the issue and stop the practice.

Information in the UN film strongly suggests that local governments in some countries are compliant with this practice. Financially there are a lot of people who are benefitting from the trafficking of these young boys and girls… including government leaders and policemen. If enough people made it their cause, and our voices and support were united around the world, the lives of these sweet innocent children could be saved. At great personal peril there are good men and women who are rescuing these children from child traffickers. This is their cause. They need our prayers and our financial support. Warning: When you read the stories of rescue they share, they will break your heart.

For more information on others who are trying to stop child trafficking, please go here.

No Big Deal

In date rape, Domestic Violence, Education, Government, Marriage, Media, Pedophilia, Polls, Pornography, Research, The Family, Values, Violence on January 22, 2015 at 9:58 am

porn harms 3Kristen Jan Cannon

There seems to be a major cultural shift surrounding our society in regards to tolerating, accepting, and even embracing pornography. Some people argue that it’s a healthy way to explore and understand your sexuality. A lot of couples claim that it actually enhances their intimate experience together. And quite a few folks out there think that viewing porn is perfectly normal and pleasing yourself from time to time is more than justified.

But is it?

One of the major problems with these arguments is they focus on the short-term effects that pornography may produce. Sure, it makes sense that viewing pornography is going to leave you aroused, excited, and wanting more. But is it going to leave you wanting more of your significant other? Or just more porn?

And how far is too far? For example, most of our society frowns upon child pornography. In the U.S. it is illegal, and you, yourself, probably find this practice is downright disgusting and beyond inappropriate.

And yet, “regular” pornography is fine.

Well at some point, if you’re into pornography, the “regular” stuff isn’t going to cut it for you.

Like any drug, you can’t pick and choose when you stop. You never get the same high as the one before. You need more and more and more to fuel your needs.

According to www.stoppornculture.org, “teen” is the most searched term worldwide. A Google Trends analysis conducted in 2013 indicated that searches for “Teen Porn” have more than tripled between 2005-2013. As of March 2013, total searches for teen-related porn reached an estimated 500,000 daily, far larger than other genres. This category of pornography now represents about one third of all porn-related searches globally.

And keep in mind that teen porn is child porn. As if that’s not bothersome enough, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children reported in 2013 that about 20% of all Internet pornography depicts child sexual abuse.

Another big theme in the porn industry is violence, typically demonstrated by men acting violently toward women. About 88 percent of top-rated porn videos contain aggressive acts, which can consist of open hand slapping, rape, and even murder.

Sound normal? Sound okay? Sound like a romantic night for you and your partner to indulge in?

Think again.

It’s time society realizes the damage pornography is doing. You might think it’s okay in small doses. You might think certain genres of porn are fine. But there’s no telling what you’re going to click on next. You may find yourself wanting more and more and more.

And you’ll tell yourself it’s no big deal.

But it’s kind of a big deal.

Political Correctness- The Petri Dish of America’s Destruction

In Abortion, Child Abuse, Child Development, Democracy, Education, Families, Free Speech, Gender, Government, Homosexuality, Human Rights, Marriage, Non-Discrimination, Parental Rights, Parenting, Pedophilia, Religion, Religious Freedom, Same-Sex Marriage, Sanctity of Life, Schools, Sex Education, Sexual Orientation, Supreme Court, The Family, Values on October 16, 2014 at 10:27 pm
 petri dishRebecca Mallory
“Truth is stranger than fiction” is alive and well in our destructive PC culture. Just when you think you’ve heard every ridiculous edict relating to political correctness, some other insane story rears it’s ugly head to top it. Has it made America safer and more inclusive? Absolutely not. Spineless, thin-skinned, and over-sensitive are more the adjectives that come to mind. Are there genuine bigots and racists in the world? Of course. We’re all human and make mistakes. And as we all know, behavior cannot be legislated. So I have an idea… how about we “choose” NOT to be offended? How about we “choose” to have a spine and get over it? Like many other man-made policies, political correctness is eroding the very fiber of what makes America great. People as early as the 1940’s were warned of the dangers of PC.

George Orwell’s futuristic novel, published in 1949 titled “Nineteen Eighty-Four” portrays a world of restricted speech called “Newspeak” which eerily resembles political correctness of today where speech and thought are controlled and limited by the state. According to Wikipedia, Newspeak is “a reduced language created by the totalitarian state as a tool to limit free thought, and concepts that pose a threat to the regime such as freedom, self-expression, individuality, peace, etc. All language is under the control of a privileged Inner Party elite that persecutes all individualism and independent thinking as “thoughtcrimes“. The protagonist of the novel, Winston Smith, is a member of the Outer Party who works for the Ministry of Truth (or Minitrue), which is responsible for propaganda and historical revisionism. (Impossible! You can’t just “rewrite” history! Or can you?) His job is to rewrite past newspaper articles so that the historical record always supports the current party line. Smith is a diligent and skillful worker, but he secretly hates the Party and dreams of rebellion against Big Brother. Hmmm… any similarities to what is happening in America today?
Was Orwell really a prophet of social behavior? Granted, people today are not being hauled off to prison for the mere words they speak, but we’re headed down that path. However, the poor guy who was thrown in prison for producing the “hateful and spontaneous Benghazi youTube video” may beg to differ. Each day we are assaulted by the media telling us what we should believe, how we should act and the correct words we should say. Despite our individual beliefs, we must now accept without equivocation, gay rights, abortion for any reason at any time, and a myriad of other morally destructive behaviors. Yet… we are immediately condemned for any expression of religion, sanctity of marriage or a pro-life stance. No, no! Any of those beliefs make you a bigot, racist, or hate-monger. Your beliefs are offensive, theirs are not.

    If you were Rip Van Winkle, waking up from a twenty year slumber today, you may not recognize your world. Flip on the news this past week and this is what you would have heard. 1) An outraged mother in Mobile, Alabama picked up her five year old daughter from school holding a contract she was forced to sign by school administrators. It stated that five year old Elizabeth would never “commit suicide or kill anyone on campus.” Without her mother’s permission, this mere child was questioned by school officials about her thoughts of depression or suicide. This child can hardly write her own name! These are terms she’s never even heard of. What was her heinous crime? She drew something “that looked like a gun then pointed a crayon at another child while saying ‘pow pow’.” Are you kidding me? Good thing I’m not Elizabeth’s mother. That kid would be pulled from that school faster than they could realize they were losing public funds without her.

It gets worse folks. Also this week in Lincoln, Nebraska, the school district brainiacs sent out instruction to all teachers that they can no longer refer to their students as boys and girls.” Because they don’t want to offend any transgendered children, they will now be referred to as  ‘PURPLE PENGUINS.'”  Not kidding. Look it up. These non-gender specific mounds of flesh and bone will line up now according to their preference of skateboards or bikes; apples or oranges. How can this possibly be acceptable to anyone but a psychiatrist who needs to build up his/her (oh sorry! I mean more mature Purple Penguin) clientele?? I used to think home schooling was a little odd and against the mainstream. Not anymore. Please be aware of what your sweet and innocent children are being exposed to in public school. Please do not take it for granted that educators, and especially administrators, have your kids’ best interest at heart. Just pay attention. Warning: A huge proponent of this nonsense is woven throughout the Common Core curriculum.  Your school? If they took “Raise to the Top” funds, yup, that’s your school.

     Well, Rip, if blood isn’t shooting out your ears already, listen to these absurd over-reaching examples of PC crazy town from just the past few months:

A. The Missouri State Fair has permanently banned a rodeo clown from performing just because he wore an Obama mask, and now all of the other rodeo clowns are being required to take “sensitivity training“…

B. Government workers in Seattle have been told that they should no longer use the words “citizen” and “brown bag” because they are potentially offensive.

C. A Florida police officer recently lost his job for calling Trayvon Martin a “thug” on Facebook.

D. One sportscaster lost his job by referring to a well-known adage, “chink in the armor” to New York Knick’s Jeremy Linn.

E. A professor at Ball State University was recently banned from even mentioning the concept of intelligent design because it would supposedly “violate the academic integrity” of the course that he was teaching.

F. Chaplains in the U.S. military are being forced to perform gay marriages, even if it goes against their personal religious beliefs.  The few chaplains that have refused to follow orders know that it means the end of their careers.

G. The governor of California has signed a bill into law which will allow transgendered students to use whatever bathrooms and gym facilities that they would like…Hey mom! Hope you’re not bigoted enough to feel uncomfortable with that!!

H. In San Francisco, authorities have installed small plastic “privacy screens” on library computers so that perverts can continue to exercise their “right” to watch pornography at the library without children being directly exposed to it.

I.  In America today, there are many groups that are absolutely obsessed with eradicating every mention of God out of the public sphere.

J. According to a new Army manual, U.S. soldiers will now be instructed to avoid “any criticism of pedophilia” and to avoid criticizing “anything related to Islam”.

K. The Obama administration has banned all U.S. government agencies from producing any training materials that link Islam with terrorism.  In fact, the FBI has gone back and purged references to Islam and terrorism from hundreds of old documents.

L. According to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, it is illegal for employers to discriminate against criminals because it has a “disproportionate” impact on minorities.

Political Correctness used to be a joke. Now it’s arguably the most destructive tool eroding our freedoms because it festers and affects almost every facet of our lives in an attempt to sterilize us from all injustice. Good luck with that. Just a few members of the “Inner Party” have determined what is acceptable and what is not acceptable in speech, beliefs and actions. Who said they were right and we were wrong?? We did. Through our vote, our apathy, our support, our giving up,  by our merely sitting around fretting. C’mon America! Stand up and be counted!  We’ve had enough of this nonsense.

Keep it REAL

In Child Abuse, Child Development, date rape, Domestic Violence, Drug Use, Education, Families, Media, Pedophilia, Pornography, Research, Technology, The Family, Values, Violence on September 8, 2014 at 10:57 am

porn stop


Kristen Jan Heimuli

 Picture this: your significant other comes to pick you up for a romantic date. It’s obvious they took forever to look good just for you. You can see enthusiasm all over their face when they get to your front door. Meanwhile, all you can think about is how they don’t compare with the digitally touched up, airbrushed, enhanced, images you were checking out on your computer earlier. Not to mention, you already know your partner isn’t about to do any of the stuff you watched couples do in those sexually explicit videos.

Why? Because that stuff is not REAL.

And now that you’ve found yourself comparing a real person to a whole lot of fake ones, that person you really do care about, who you are really attracted to, isn’t going to give you much of a rush. But once upon a time, that special someone gave you a different kind of feeling that you can’t get from your smartphone.

So let’s stop sugarcoating what is perhaps the most prevalent problem in our society. It’s time to stop acting like it’s healthy, cool, natural, ordinary, satisfying.  Let’s face it-this issue is not just “boys being boys”.  It’s time we get REAL about pornography.

 It’s nothing new that sex has a tendency to sell all sorts of things-clothes, hamburgers, alcohol, shoes. You name it- sex can probably find a way to sell it.

 But sex has a whole other dimension of business: sex sells people.

 So in an effort to maximize profits, the media often fail to portray the facts about pornography. And using this powerful and dangerous drug as bait, they go right to their target audience: young people. Porn is an addiction more powerful than drugs, and it’s cheaper and more accessible too. If porn can hook you before you fully understand its fatal effects, the porn industry might have a client for life.

 In fact, the largest consumer of Internet pornography is between the ages of 12-17. Ninety percent of children ages 8-16 have been exposed to pornography, often by accident, typically while doing homework on the computer. And don’t think it’s a total accident because that’s strategically how they hope to get you.

 Eighty percent of 15-17 year olds are repeatedly exposed to hardcore pornography, and at this point the exposure is typically by their own choice. The tragedy of pornography targeting youth is that it often continues into adulthood as an obsessive addiction.

 Pornography is not an issue we can afford to take lightly. It is essential for individuals of all ages to understand the negative impact pornography has on our brains and relationships.

 Many porn users are unable to actually engage in real sex with a real partner because real people do not live up to the user’s unachievable sexual fantasies. Porn promotes infidelity, rape, sexual violence, prostitution, and the objectification of women and children.

It distorts users’ reality about love, sex, and relationships. It leaves viewers literally desensitized until they become bored enough to seek new and more perverse forms of pornography. This addictive cycle often encourages users to “act out” the fake sexual violence they see on real people.

 It is also worth noting that child-sex offenders are more likely to view pornography regularly or to be involved in its distribution. Yikes!

Bottom line: The consequences of pornography are anything but fantasy, for both the user and the used.

 So what is being done to combat this immense social problem?

 A non-profit organization based in Salt Lake City, Utah called “Fight the New Drug” is actually doing a lot on this issue. Their mission is “to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects through science, facts, and personal accounts.” Currently on their Facebook page and their official website they display a motto that states: “We will not rest until the world knows pornography is harmful.”

 Similar to how the well-known D.A.R.E. program taught kids throughout the U.S. about the harmful effects of illicit drugs, Fight the New Drug is committed to educating individuals everywhere about the dangers pornography inevitably brings to its users. Anyone, anywhere can join the Fight against pornography by becoming involved with Fight the New Drug’s social media, sporting their slick merchandise, or participating in events to raise awareness about pornography. Along with Fight the New Drug and other individuals devoted to overcoming this trend, let’s share the facts on pornography and expose it for what it truly is: a huge deception.

Why spend all your time and energy with an airbrushed, cropped, digitally altered, unrealistic façade when you could be having a satisfying, romantic, and loyal relationship with a real person… that real person who you really want to love?

 Let’s keep love REAL, y’all. Say “no” to porn. And then spread the word so others will be empowered to say it too.


The Truth About Porn

In Child Development, Courts, Domestic Violence, Drug Use, Education, Families, father, Free Speech, Government, Marriage, Media, Parenting, Pedophilia, Pornography, Research, Schools, Sex Education, Technology, The Family, Values, Violence on August 11, 2014 at 5:34 am


By: Kristen Jan Heimuli 

            It’s a $57 billion a year industry worldwide; $12 billion right here in the U.S. Its revenue is larger than all combined revenues of professional basketball, football, and baseball franchises. It transcends the combined revenues of ABC, CBS, and NBC networks. With over 372 million web pages, it takes up 12 percent of the Internet’s total websites. Seventy-two percent of males and 28 percent of females visit these websites regularly. No doubt about it, pornography is an expensive business. It costs billions of dollars to produce and to view. And it costs a countless number of relationships, families, and lives.

            Pornography isn’t a brand new phenomenon, but the media has certainly increased expansion and accessibility of this perverse drug. It can now be found right on your smart phone-and your child’s smart phone. In a world where children are so media savvy, and media is so saturated with pornography, parents need to take precaution. Children, particularly boys who are at risk of anti-social behavior, are more likely to engage in pornography via the media. It is essential for parents to understand what they are up against-and also what their children are facing every single day.

            The effects of pornography are not something we can afford to ignore. Many individuals claim that engaging in pornography is healthy, liberating, appropriate, normal. Perhaps it’s just “boys being boys.”

            Science strongly suggests otherwise.

            Pornography physically damages and rewires neuro-pathways in the human brain, just like illicit drugs. A few of the startling psychological consequences of pornography include: desensitization, habituation, and eventually boredom. As users move from “soft-core” pornography to more perverse forms, desensitization for people increases as victims become objects to be used at the user’s disposal.           

            For instance, numerous married men who view pornography report becoming bored with their wives in regards to sexual intercourse and other forms of sexual intimacy. Many pornography users suffer from erectile dysfunction and are unable to have sex with a “real” woman because of the numbing effects that pornography has on the brain. Like any drug, the first high will never return, and many will spend a lifetime trying to feed their gratification through more disturbing forms of pornography, which is often linked to sex crimes and domestic violence.

            As if that’s not frightening enough, a study conducted back in 1995 showed that pornography even has the capability to not only influence individuals’ sexual behaviors, but to promote sexually violent behaviors. Individuals who are exposed to pornography are more likely to perceive rape and other sex crimes as acceptable. Notice this shocking apathy occurs in individuals who are exposed to pornography, and not just those actually engaging in it.

            The question is, in the society that we live, who hasn’t been exposed to it? Imagine the consequences on one’s brain who is repeatedly choosing to view pornographic material over and over.

            The effects pornography has on the brain and on relationships have been studied for awhile now. So what has been done about it? And what are we going to do about it?

            In the United States, not much has been done by the government regarding pornography. However, the use of child pornography in any form (i.e. distribution, viewing, selling children, etc.) is illegal. While this is a way to protect children from harm once the act has taken place-it does not prevent children from harm. Thus, this measure really addresses symptoms of a much bigger problem: a lack of education about sex and pornography. This type of education should particularly be implemented among youth.

            While school assemblies and advocacy groups are beginning to educate individuals and fight pornography head on, the most effective way to reduce consumption of pornography is for adults to teach sex and media education in the home. In fact, the likelihood of pornography exposure turning into pornography consumption significantly drops when positive standards regarding women, relationships, and sex are demonstrated in family life.

            What do you say we take that seriously?

            Let’s stop being okay with pornography! Let’s offer support and encouragement to those overcoming pornography addictions. We need to educate those who may one day find themselves in pornography’s grasp. We need to teach our children, and ourselves, what pornography really does. Prevention is better than intervention.

            Knowledge truly is power. Remember, the first step to combat pornography begins in our homes. Don’t take this drug lightly-it is a force to be reckoned with. Prevent it. Reduce it. Explain it. Understand it. Discuss it over the dinner table. Spread the word.








The ‘Gay’ Love Story Does Not Have a Happy Ending

In AIDS, Drug Use, Gender, Health Care, Homosexuality, Pedophilia, Religion, Same-Sex Marriage, Sanctity of Life, Sexual Orientation, Sexually Transmitted Disease, Transgender on May 23, 2014 at 7:14 am
gay couple dieing of aidsMaddi Gillel
Have you noticed that often, in our society, things are not as advertised, reported, or perceived?  There is usually more to the story than a casual observation.-few subjects more so than the gay lifestyle.  The following is a link to a testimonial of this:


CSW and Sexual Rights

In Abortion, Abstinence, AIDS, Child Development, Diane Robertson, Education, Families, Feminism, Government, Meet UFI, motherhood, Parental Rights, Parenting, Pedophilia, Sex Education, The Family, UN, Values, Women's Rights on March 26, 2014 at 8:37 pm

UN 2Diane Robertson

The Commission on the Status of Women (CWS) is a functional commission of the United Nations Economic and Social Council (ECOSOC). Each year delegates from 45 countries meet at the U.N. headquarters in NY to formulate concrete policies on women worldwide.

Volunteers from United Families International just spent the past week in NYC presenting and assisting delegates in formulating the wording in certain “outcome documents”. The language found in these outcome documents gets used everywhere and becomes known as ‘customary international law’. The phrases in the outcome documents have tremendous influence worldwide. United Families is there to help assure that the critical wording in these documents is family friendly. This is clearly a tough job. While the stated purpose of the conference, based on 8millenial goals (MDG’s), are eradicating extreme poverty and hunger, achieve a universal primary education, promote gender equality and empower women, reduce child mortality rates, improve maternal health, combat disease like HIV/AIDS and malaria, ensure environmental sustainability, and develop global partnerships, there are many NGO’s that use these goals to push comprehensive sexual education and sexual rights for children.

Carolina-Kawika Allen attended CSW with other UFI volunteers. She states:

“Certain NGOs have more sway and power at the UN. Many are using this power to create temporary fixes with long term devastation and oppression. Let me explain… While here at this conference it is clear to see how the solutions posed by very influential NGOs, promoting terms like, ‘reproductive health care for women and girls’, ‘child sexual rights’, ‘comprehensive sexual education’, etc. are in reality something else entirely.

Take for example the Goliath-NGO, International Planned Parenthood Federation (IPPF), with its most recent campaign ‘Exclaim’ for ‘child sexual rights’. Here you find that, and I quote, ‘Young people must be able to explore, experience and express their sexuality. They are entitled to do this in positive, pleasurable and safe ways. To secure young people’s sexual rights we must understand how human rights apply to young people’s sexuality’. Note that they are linking human rights directly with sexual rights, a legal move that is intended to codify sexuality in children, with the intent to eventually become legally binding. This campaign never even specifies how young, and in several places the word ‘child’ is actually used.”

 As side event on human sex trafficking of children occurred, language that would have children as young as 5 taught masturbation, children as young as 13 introduced to pornography in the name of “sexual health”, and abortion services provided for every young woman by the age of 15 was being debated. Carolina exclaimed, “I sat in my chair fuming at the idea that the very language being included in these outcome documents were essentially ‘grooming’ children as a sexual predator would groom his victim.”

The term “Family” has become the most controversial word at the U.N.  Countries that still believe that strong families are the solution to the MDG goals such as eradicating poverty, and hunger, educating children and stopping the spread of diseases are few and weak. They are mainly African, Polynesian, and Middle Eastern nations. The delegates from these countries are under extreme pressure to give way to the sexual rights agenda of the powerful NGO’s. They need the help of the few family friendly groups such as United Families International to stand strong in favor of the family.

Carolina concludes by calling upon the good strong women of the world to help fight the sexual right’s agenda in order to secure the safety of the child/parent relationship and the safety of children around the world. She declares:

“What I have found is the TREMENDOUS need for women, faithful, family centered, child-protecting, women–women like you and me who aren’t ashamed to claim and fight for their families–women who proudly claim their faith—strong and mighty women, who will fight for their children and the world’s children.”


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