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No Justice Because the People Voted

In Abortion, Child Abuse on April 1, 2015 at 10:51 am

unborn baby and mom“Sexual rights” trump even a child’s right to life and society doesn’t seem to mind.

By Diane Robertson

A couple of weeks ago in Colorado, Michelle Wilkins answered a Craigslist ad for baby clothes. Once she arrived at the seller’s home, Dynel Lane, attacked her, cut her open, and removed her unborn child.

Dynel Lane’s husband found the baby in a bathtub and rushed her to the hospital. Michelle Wilkins, still believing she was pregnant, locked herself in a room in the basement and alerted authorities to the attack. Wilkins survived; her baby girl, at 7 months gestation, did not.

The baby girl was alive before being torn from the safety of her mother’s womb. However, autopsy reports would have to conclude that the baby breathed. With no oxygen found in her lungs, Colorado law denies the baby personhood—personhood that her mother, Michelle Wilkin’s, fully understood existed.

In the last year and a half I had 3 women close to me lose a baby due to still birth. Each was heart stricken with the loss of the child growing in their womb. Though none of these babies ever took a breath outside the womb, each baby’s life holds meaning to their mothers and all of their families. The lives of these babies will never be forgotten. They are loved as much as any child.

Michelle Wilkin’s baby will never be forgotten. Due to a violent crime, she lost her child. A baby that lived is now dead.

One of 12 states that do not have laws making the violent death of an unborn child a homicide, a Colorado district attorney, announced Dynel Lane will not face murder charges. In 2013 state legislators voted down a fetus homicide bill over fears it would interfere with abortion rights. Colorado voters overwhelmingly agreed with the legislature when they rejected a similar ballot measure in 2014.

Michelle Wilkins will never have the pleasure of holding her daughter. She never even had an opportunity to say goodbye to her child. She may never be able to carry another child with the damage done to her uterus. Yet justice will not be fully served for Michelle, her husband, and her daughter.

Dynel Lane will be convicted under another Colorado law that makes it a felony to violently cause the death of a mother’s fetus. Thirty-two years in prison will be the maximum penalty. If the law was just, she would be convicted of homicide and face life in prison without parole.

People feel moral revulsion and disgust at such a crime. Many feel a demand for justice. Yet justice will not be served because once again, the majority has decided that “sexual rights” reign supreme. Since some people want to have indiscriminate sex without the inconvenience of pregnancy, abortion became a “right” held above the right to life. And when the people were asked, they voted to continue to protect indiscriminate sex even over the lives of wanted unborn children.

I have heard that “the liberal philosophy of human rights is utterly random and disjointed.” (Matt Walsh)

But it’s not random. The liberal philosophy always places sexual libertinism above everything else. It’s above life, freedom, decency and innocence. It’s above family, nature, and most of all above children. And this time, the child suffered, the mother and father suffered, the grandparents, and friends suffered. And once more the moral fabric of society suffered. Will we ever learn that children are precious and we, the people, need to protect them above everything else?

Children Need Their Mommies More Than “Success”

In Child Development, Education, Families, motherhood, Parenting, Schools, The Family, Values on March 31, 2015 at 8:23 am

mother reading to a childNathalie Bowman

I glanced at my mail and read the headline of a local advertising magazine:

“7 Reasons why high quality preschool matters for your child.”

Among the 7 things were “Get Ahead”, “Success”, and “Test Scores”.

Why would I be worried about my 3 year old “getting ahead”? Getting ahead of whom? My three year old likes to get ahead of her older brothers in the ice cream line. But I fear these experts aren’t talking about ice cream. And what about “success”? The success they talked about in the article wasn’t success in learning to count to 10 or learning the alphabet. No, it promoted the kind of success that means money in the pocket and envy of neighbors when one has a nice house and a boat.

Does a 3 year old care about all of that “success”? Not any 3 year old I’ve met. They seem to care about what they are going to eat, playing with toys, and enjoying the moment. Unfortunately, too many parents get caught up in pushing education too early instead of letting their children develop naturally with encouragement and love.

Education today seems to be all about test scores, success, and getting ahead, and it begins in preschool. Children need to get into the right preschool so they can get ahead in reading and math by the 3rd grade. According to the article I read, studies show that children who have high test scores in reading and math by the 3rd grade will be successful adults. Children who don’t, well, it will be a sad life for them. They have no hope if they don’t make it by the 3rd grade. So, in order to be successful by 3rd grade, a child must be educated in an expensive, high level preschool. And that will guarantee the child’s success as an adult.

How uninspiring that sounds! The poor child who doesn’t succeed by 3rd grade is doomed. There must be a better way, and there is a better way.

There are four phases of learning that children move through as they grow up and into adulthood. The youngest is the core phase, which is roughly 0-8 years old. During this time, the most important person to a child is their mother.

Children need their mommies. Mommies teach children love, just by their care and example. Preschool children feel more secure at home with their parents, especially their mothers. Mothers have a wonderful opportunity to create a home that encourages the best learning for children – play. Children learn through play. It’s their way of exploring the world. (for great ideas about how to encourage more creative play with your children, see www.playcounts.com)

Children enjoy stories. Reading to your children will foster a love of books and a love of learning from very early ages. Moms who read to their children create more interest in reading than any phonics program at the top preschool. Children love being in mom’s lap while she reads a story. It creates bonding time. The child has an inner knowing that she is the center of her mother’s world at that moment, and moments like that help create confidence in the child as they feel loved and encouraged during reading time.

If all a mother does is shift her perception of “success” and “getting ahead” to spending time playing with, nurturing, and loving her child, she will give her child the most important foundation to a child’s success as an adult–the confidence that comes from a mother’s love.

Family-together Time…It’s worth the effort!

In Child Development, Families, Family Planning, father, Grandparents, Parenting, Research, The Family, Values on March 30, 2015 at 7:06 am

family funCaitlin Woolbert

Families are becoming busier and busier in their schedules and are involved in more activities outside of the home. Researchers have studied children of all ages and looked at whether age influences the amount of time a child is willing to spend participating in family activities. One study concluded that

“We ordinarily think of family-shared recreation as age-graded. That is, as children grow older they gradually become emancipated from the family and establish their own circle of friends and activities. The responses of the Pacific County High School students, however, show that older students are just as likely as younger students to desire more recreational activities with their families” (Stone, 1963, p. 85).

There are many benefits of spending time together as a family in recreational activities.

“In general, it [family recreation] is believed to improve parent-child understanding of the interests, problems, and points of view of each by the other” (Stone, 1963, p. 85). Leisure time helps to foster those feelings of mutual understanding and creates a bonding opportunity in which all members of the family can be actively involved in getting to know each other and come closer together.

Family leisure or family time is important to me and my family. Life can be crazy and hectic, but we make it a priority to spend time together. It is easier to spend time with your immediate family. Connecting with extended family is also important. One thing my family has started is getting together once a month for family dinner. It is a great way to catch up and bond together. Looking back through the years, some of my greatest memories come from spending time with my extended family. It is fun to reconnect and reminisce about the good old days.

One of my favorite quotes reads, “Family, like branches on a tree, we all grow in different directions yet our roots remain as one.” Families are constantly growing and changing, but we need to remember that we all come from the same roots. Making family leisure or family time a priority is important to strengthen your growing family tree.

Resources:

Stone, C. L. (1963). Family recreation-a parental dilemma. The family life coordinator, vol. 12, pp. 85-87. Retrieved from: http://www.jstor.org.byui.idm.oclc.org/stable/10.2307/581462?Search=yes&resultItemClick=true&searchText=Family&searchText=Recreation-A&searchText=Parental&searchText=Dilemma&searchUri=%2Faction%2FdoBasicSearch%3FQuery%3DFamily%2BRecreation-A%2BParental%2BDilemma%26amp%3Bacc%3Don%26amp%3Bwc%3Don%26amp%3Bfc%3Doff

 

 

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