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Precious Memories Lost or Created…Parents Choose Wisely

In Child Development, Education, Families, motherhood, Parental Rights, Parenting, Research, Schools, stay-at-home mom, The Family, Values, working mothers on January 22, 2013 at 8:35 am

sad childRachel Allison

Reading Ann Bailey’s article about the studies that have come out against the Federal Government’s Head Start preschool program must be discouraging to those whose intentions may have been positive and even altruistic.  But the years of time and effort and billions of dollars poured into the program have proven a failure.

Who lost out? The innocent children who were used as Guiney pigs to boost the ego of brainstorming government employees who thought that they had devised a program that was better than a mother’s love and the security of home environment. What does a child need and long for more than anything else in the world? Quantity and quality time spent with their mother.

Who else lost out? The mothers who forfeited memories made with their precious pre-schoolers.

You may say, “But it was a program for poor families.”  I remember the families in my hometown who sent their children to Head Start.  The mothers loved their children.  They may have qualified for government assistance, but they were good mothers.  They mistakenly thought they were giving their children an advantage, when in reality they were giving up precious time and memories with their child for a program that failed.  Again, what does a child need and long for more than anything else in the world?  Quantity and quality time spent with their mother.

Can you sense my emotion?  For the past two weeks I have been following through on a New Year’s Resolution.  I have spent hours compiling a memory album of my children.  Each photo represents a precious memory I have with them. Each hour spent on the project has stirred emotions that have brought me close to tears. If I could I would go back in time and do it all again.

Young mothers and fathers…May I emphasize that no one will love and care for your children as well as you.  Love them. Teach them. Spend as much time with them as you possibly can.  Enjoy them, and allow them to enjoy you.  Your memories will create a valuable anchor to your soul that you will cherish more and more as the years advance. Trust me on this one.  I think it may even be a natural law.

  1. I couldn,t agree more. Children are not easy, but nothing fulfilling ever is. The song “Sunrise, Sunset” stirs emotion in every parent, because they see, as the song beautifully expresses, how quickly time goes by and how sweet and PRECIOUS that time is.

  2. Your article tugged at my heart strings – our children actually desperately need love and time with their mothers during these early years. Ironically, the more they get, the less they’ll need it. And less grief for parent and child throughout their/our lives, especially during their turbulent teens.

  3. Pre-school is very popular and pretty much the expected thing to do. My first two kids went to pre-school everyday for 2.5 hours. I regretted that decision and haven’t sent any of the other kids. My first 4 kids were sent to kindergarten and since then I have decided that kids that age learn best at home and do better socially if they stay with mom just one more year, so my other 5 kids will not be/have not been sent away until first grade. It is sad that we are in such a rush to send our kids away. They will have the entire rest of their lives to leave home everyday and make their way in the world.

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