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Ten Characteristics of Successful Marriages

In Marriage, Religion, Research on October 14, 2011 at 11:47 am

By Kelli Houghton

Let’s be honest – marriage can be a wonderful experience, but anyone who has made their way out of the honeymoon phase has had a taste of reality,  can attest that marriage takes patience and work! Then of course there are times when we think we have finally figured out how to have a successful marriage and then another baby comes along, a child turns into a teenager, or we become empty nesters – life keeps moving us in different directions and the marriage has to adapt.

So, what makes a successful marriage and how can we build a strong foundation for our marriage?  Below are ten characteristics found in a successful marriages that may help you in your journey.

Ten Characteristics of Successful Marriages:

1. Commitment: Divorce is not considered an option

2. Common Interests: Shared values and interests in: children, work, travel, goals, dependability and the desire to work together

3. Communication: Openness about opinions and feelings (self-disclosure) where couples are willing to interact, trust and share

4. Religiousity (high levels of religious commitment): A strong religious orientation provided couple with social, spiritual and emotional support

5. Trust: Provided a stable foundation for security in marriage

6. Finances and Work: Being non-materialistic – valuing family and marriage over the accumulation of material goods. Practicing financial self-control and not spending beyond their means

7. Role Models: Good marriages beget good marriages. Growing up in a happy parental marriage helped create good marriages for children

8. Virtues: Individuals who develop good character make better husbands and wives, mother  and fathers

9. Low Stress Levels: Low stress levels in one’s life are associated with marital quality

10. Sexual Desire: Sexual desire for one’s spouse expressed consistently through the life course

(“Themes of Long-Term, Satisfied Marriages Consummate Between 1952-1967” by S. Billingsley, M.Lim and G. Jennings.)

 

  1. I love the advice that not just “communication” is vital, but that speaking kindly to your spouse and of your spouse will improve your marriage.

  2. They say action speaks louder than words but a husband, wife, child in a family may mistaken your action for anything else! You need to say it so that they get your action right. Ones warm smile can mean derision to wife or family member but tell the u love them because it is what they want to hear. It boosts confidence in them. Tell them u love them again and again to reassure them.

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