No Religious Exemptions

In Constitution, Courts, Diane Robertson, Education, Families, Gender, Government, Homosexuality, Human Rights, Marriage, Media, Religion, Religious Freedom, Same-Sex Marriage, Sexual Orientation, The Family, Transgender, Values on July 23, 2014 at 12:39 pm

obama signing executive order

Diane Robertson      President Obama’s overreaching executive order is the latest example illustrating that the very government that the Constitution charges with protecting religious freedom is now the primary threat to religious freedom. The administration has brazenly bypassed Congress and declared that the only religious non-profit organizations it will do business with are those willing to line up with the administration’s doctrine and theology on sexual behavior. That’s the kind of government entanglement with religion that the Founders sought to prevent and that the First Amendment prohibits.”

–Alliance Defending Freedom Senior Counsel Kristen Waggoner

Monday, President Obama signed an executive order which bars federal contractors from “discriminating” on the basis of sexuality or gender identity. Obama had announced that he planned on signing such an order. The executive order is now signed and finalized into law. This executive order contains no exceptions for religious organizations.

This order now prevents religious non-profits, schools, and businesses that contract with the government from requiring a code of conduct from their employees. Employers must abandon their principles for political correctness.

The President has in effect chosen to promote the progressive homosexual agenda in expense of the common good. Religious non-profits will need to choose either to lose money used to serve the community or to ignore the tenets of their religion. In a letter urging the President to include religious exemptions, some prominent religious leaders wrote, “When the capacity of religious organizations is limited, the common good suffers.”

All tax payers and federal tax dollars come from people of all faiths, beliefs, and political views. But now, the President has declared that all tax dollars will only go to those contractors whose viewpoints align with the LGBT agenda.

Let It Go…

In Child Development, motherhood, Parenting on July 22, 2014 at 12:25 pm

Let goNathalie Bowman

Letting go of the Rope of Good Intention and letting love in can be a challenge, but it can be done, and it will be freeing for both the parent and the child! The following are four ways to begin letting go of the rope, and letting love in your family and your relationships with your children.

1. Ask

Simply Ask your child what his/her needs are. Spend some time with her and find out what she really desires. Sometimes we forget to do the most simple things like asking what our child needs. Use the words “What do you need?” and the answers may surprise you.

2. Watch for signs of stress and provide a space where the stress can be managed and released.

Stress shows up in as many different ways as there are children. If you are aware, you will recognize misbehaviors, depression, tantrums, shutting down, hyperactivity, excess sleeping or not sleeping, etc, as signs of stress. Instead of focusing on correcting the behavior at first, find out why they are acting that way. There could be some deep feelings of not belonging, hopelessness, misunderstanding, not having personal value, feeling boxed in, or other feelings of low self-worth that are creating the negative behavior. Let go of your Rope of Good Intention and help them feel more secure in your love and their belonging by focusing less on your desires for them and more on providing a place where they feel safe and loved. If children feel from their parents that they always have to go, go, go, perform a certain way, or be something they are not in order to be loved, it creates stress within, and the child will not feel good enough. Watch for signs of stress and provide a place that the child feels welcomed and loved. This could be done by simply spending more time with them, reading together, playing games, going to the park, for a bike ride, or taking them out for dinner and letting them talk it out with you. Have the intention that the time you spend with your child will open up love and acceptance for both of you as well as releasing stress.

3. Recognize and honor your child’s genius.

Every person on this planet is a genius. We see top level people in music, acting, athletics, business, technology, academics, etc, and recognize them as a genius. Wanting this level of success for our children may not be a bad thing unless we tighten that Rope of Good Intention and make our children go down the “path to success” that we choose for them. Any great coach or mentor knows that it’s best to ask questions and give guidance so their client can tap into their own genius. It doesn’t work to force and pull genius out of a person. This is the same for children. First, recognize that your child has all they need to be a confident, competent adult who will do good in their world. Then love them for the genius that they are. Listen closely to their interests, get into their world, understand what excites them, drives them, and see the greatness in them. Give them opportunities to read, learn, and experience more of what they love. With your intention to support them for who they are, not wanting to “fix” them, you are recognizing their genius. Extend a guiding hand, ask questions, be interested in them.

4. Twice a year, take an inventory of your child’s needs.

Make this a time you look forward to. Go to your favorite place away from home where you will not be interrupted.. Find a place where you can relax and tune in to your inner knowledge. Take a notebook and pen. Write down your child’s name at the top of the page (if you have more than one child, do this for each of them). Ask yourself what do they need? Ask yourself what you want for them. As parents, we are instinctively guided to what our children need, and we have the duty to help them get there. (Next week we will explore how to do this without the Rope of Good Intention). Write all these thoughts and ideas down. As you are writing, you will come up with solutions and ideas to help them along their path for the next 6 months. This is a great time to connect with your higher power and intuition. Organize your thoughts and make a plan for yourself as to how you will guide and help your child for the next 6 months. Then go home and do it!

Step into your powerful, loving role as a parent, and love your children for who they are right now. They will grow into adults who know how to move through challenges successfully, confident in who they are because of the effort you made through the years to love, guide, and direct them-without the pull of the rope. Begin with one step from this list, and you will notice a difference!


The Unthinkable: Not for Your Child

In Child Development, Parenting on July 21, 2014 at 8:04 am

Little girl, abuseHaving to live through sexual abuse as a child is one of the hardest things to have to deal with, and can really impact a child’s life. To have an uncle that you thought loved you so much but then to realize that he loved you too much, and then to have your father loving you the exact same way is not a childhood that brings happy memories. This was not the way I wanted to be brought up, but nonetheless, this is my background. And after this experience it was amazing to see how many other people I met growing up that had also suffered through sexual abuse. It is a rampant crime, and one that is also a silent crime.

Today, children in America are suffering from what we call a “hidden epidemic” of child abuse and neglect. A report of child abuse is made every ten seconds. That is hard statistic to acknowledge. Child sexual abuse has been reported up to 80,000 times a year, but the number of unreported instances is far greater, because the children are afraid to tell anyone what has happened. Not only are children afraid to tell what happened, but it’s so difficult to have proof that most of the time, the cases go unopened and there is nothing that can be done for the children. In this situation, the children are going to be seen as liars and the perpetrators could now be enraged because the child tried to get help. Unless there is visible proof, it is extremely difficult to get out of the situation, which is what happened to me as a child.

The children also have to fight the loyalty and love that they have for the perpetrator if it is someone close to them. Can you imagine trying to tell yourself it’s okay to “tattle” on Daddy because he’s touching you, but you don’t like it? Of course there’s going to be such guilt involved in a child’s mind when having to decide between telling someone and hurting the perpetrator that is also a close person to them.

Child abuse crosses socioeconomic boundaries

Child sexual abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions and at all levels of education. No one is excluded from abuse. The sad part is that innocent children are being taken advantage of sexually, when their perpetrator should know better. More than 90 percent of juvenile sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator in some way, whether it is their parent, sibling, friend, neighbor or teacher. And the abuse is longsuffering, causing damaging feelings, thought and behaviors for the rest of the child’s life.For those that haven’t experienced it firsthand, it is hard to conceptualize that it could be happening, but for those that have, it is very real and they live with the effects every single day of their life.   Children that have to endure any form of abuse are such strong children, and it requires great effort to overcome the ill effects and turn their lives around.

So what can parents do to protect their children and give them support when it does?

 Parents need to be aware of the possibilities of what could happen to their children, and they need to take precautions wherever they are so that the children are safe. There is an internet site that was built to support families all throughout the Unites States of America and to keep them informed about what’s going on in their neighborhoods. It’s called AlertID, and this website is all about reducing crime while improving safety and security for the children, family and communities all over the United States.

This website gives out alerts every time that something happens in your own community. You sign up, type in your address, and up pops all the alerts. There are so many things that are listed for you:

  • Sexual offenders living near you
  • Public disturbances
  • Car accidents
  • Suspicious vehicle/person
  • Public safety alerts

The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Children’s Bureau report Child Maltreatment 2010 found that 9.2% of victimized children were sexually assaulted. Now this is 9.2% of a total of 754,000 duplicate victims (abused more than once) and 695,000 unique (one count per child regardless of the number of times abused). Parents need to get online and get educated, and keep up with some sort of alert system, like AlertID, so that they know what’s going on in their neighborhoods.

Researchers estimate that one-third of abused and neglected children will grow up to abuse their own children when they become parents. You and I can help in small ways to stop this cycle. Teach your children the proper way in which we need to treat ourselves and others, and educate them on what is an okay for of touch from others and what isn’t. We need to give our children the ability to stand up for themselves.

When you see abuse take place, stand up and do something about it, don’t ignore it or let it happen. If you aren’t aware and working to stop abuse, chances are no one will.

Amanda Hildreth

Amanda Hildreth is a wife and mother and defines herself through faith, family, and love of writing. She is halfway through completing a fictional novel about a child surviving through child abuse. Amanda is an advocate for her 4-year-old daughter, Grace, who was born with many developmental disabilities, and will graduate with a Marriage and Family Bachelor’s degree in June 2015.

Taylor HartmanTaylor Hartman is a recent graduate of Brigham Young University-Idaho with a degree in communications and an emphasis in public relations and family studies. Taylor is interested in communications as it relates to public policy. Taylor and her husband are currently living in State College, PA, doing graduate work at Penn State.




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